Ah this is the latest exercise in "there's no way you can win".
"I don't see race" = that's racism, you are invalidating the problematic experience of an entire community.
"I understand and sympathize with your experiences" = That's racist, you can never truly understand the experience of a minority.
Here's the ironic bit though. That entire racial identity? It's primarily built around what other people think of it.
What's the endgoal there? That one cant truly understand and merely step aside? How about no.