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    Quote Originally Posted by Firatha View Post
    The oxford dictionary is not transphobic go be fake outraged somewhere else.
    It was an OBVIOUS joke. The person being fake outraged here is you, sadly.
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    The word "Feminism" is too loaded a term... has too many definitions...

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    Quote Originally Posted by Nathreim View Post
    Because obligation chocolate is given only to people you want to give it too not everyone you know in your life. The obligation means you like/respect them so you feel obligated to show that like/respect.

    Often its for friends family and other people you are close too. The asshole at work is not getting chocolate from you because you dont like or respect each other.


    On White Day the those who got chocolate are expected to return gifts that are at least two or three times more valuable than the gifts received in Valentine's Day. Giving something of equal value is seen as a sign that you dont like them and is a big insult.
    idk what the fuck is "white day" but you shouldn't be obligated to give dick.

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    I've got a boss that insists I buy her dinner and coffee and chocolate and stuff, even though I've tried about as directly as I could to point out that she should be asking her boyfriend for that kind of stuff.

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    I thought they just gave chocolate to the guys that they actually know, like friends, their crush or maybe as pity for their brothers. First time I heard that people actually do that in in the workplace as well outside of the previously mentioned circumstances. Well, it's silly either way and as long as the women won't demand to be gifted in the first place later I don't see a problem. Though it is funny imho that "the burden" of who to gift things to is now also too much for women. Since the "tradition" is only 30-40 years * old I don't really see how it caught on in the first place like that unless they really liked it..

    Edit: *Nvm, white day is from the 80s, valentines day is from the 50s, which makes it more plausible.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Haidaes View Post
    I thought they just gave chocolate to the guys that they actually know, like friends, their crush or maybe as pity for their brothers
    same.

    I watched some animes about it and girls gave it to their BFF's or the person they romantically love.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Azelas View Post
    idk what the fuck is "white day" but you shouldn't be obligated to give dick.
    That's a funny way to word that.

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    I love how many people go the "fuck feminism!! ruining society!" route without even being a part of said Japanese society or tradition. Never change, "/r/incels" champion.

    I don't blame them. I think it's weird as shit that anyone has to give anyone anything on any day. Japan is just too afraid of deviating from tradition to change awkward and strange habits their parents and grandparents did where we westerners will easily dismiss something silly or annoying.

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    Good for them. Traditions can be broken and change over time, they shouldn't feel obligated to adhere to one which they're uncomfortable with.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Hubcap View Post
    the pressure to avoid causing offence by spending thousands of yen on chocolates for coworkers is becoming intolerable
    Sure, when it's women that have to buy something for men, it's just intolerable. Just get rid of it.

    When men are expected to pay for the date, the pressure to avoid causing offence by spending tons of money on just being able to sit down and talk to a woman isn't relevant. You're a man. Suck it up, you slave!

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    Quote Originally Posted by Irian View Post
    I love how many people go the "fuck feminism!! ruining society!" route without even being a part of said Japanese society or tradition. Never change, "/r/incels" champion.

    I don't blame them. I think it's weird as shit that anyone has to give anyone anything on any day. Japan is just too afraid of deviating from tradition to change awkward and strange habits their parents and grandparents did where we westerners will easily dismiss something silly or annoying.
    I am probably going to regret asking this, and I am terrified to google it, but what is /r/incels?

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    Quote Originally Posted by imunreal View Post
    I am probably going to regret asking this, and I am terrified to google it, but what is /r/incels?
    I think it's gone now, but it was a subreddit for "Involuntary Celibates" aka incels as they came to identify themselves as.

    People who think women are a right and that society is to blame for how unappealing and undesirable they are, and became iconic for blaming women for literally every aspect of their life that they're not happy with. It's probably the most depressingly poignant example of shameless objectification and stereotyping the internet has ever seen, at least until US politics happened.

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    Well, it's customary in Poland to give flowers or sweets to female coworkers or schoolmates on Women's Day. Doesn't hurt the pockets too much, the guys usually all throw in money and buy them all together. It did hurt me when I was the only guy in my class in high school, though.

    It usually doesn't work the other way around, though.

    I think Japanese women trying to get rid of a practice of giving gifts that is considered by society as obligatory is a good thing. It's one thing to give gifts when you feel like it, you like the people you're working with and want to put a smile on their face. In such a situation, I don't think anyone would mind the expenses. But doing this to people whom you hate, simply because you're afraid you'd lose face otherwise? That's tyrannical.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Strangebrew View Post
    But, white day is of course an non-issue, despite it being the exact same thing except for men, just a month later.
    Sad to see japanese women catch a whiff of the trash that is western feminism, hypocrisy be thy name.
    Sorry they arent like ur anime girlfriends.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Satelliteyears0o View Post
    Sorry they arent like ur anime girlfriends.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Strangebrew View Post
    But, white day is of course an non-issue, despite it being the exact same thing except for men, just a month later.
    Sad to see japanese women catch a whiff of the trash that is western feminism, hypocrisy be thy name.
    I mean, I personally wouldn't want to buy anything for anyone, so I guess I'm a western idiot.

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    Idc, as long as they still don't expect the same on White day it's fine. Spend money on who you want to, but don't expect 'repayment' for a gift.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Cerilis View Post
    That's a funny way to word that.
    yeah I noticed after I wrote it down but decided to leave it there lmao

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    Another example why some traditions and parts of culture should be changed/removed.
    It is a cute tradition, but the cuteness ends the moment it becomes pretty much forced. I think most here know that you do not want to be the nail sticking out in Japan.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Rozz View Post
    Idc, as long as they still don't expect the same on White day it's fine. Spend money on who you want to, but don't expect 'repayment' for a gift.
    I mean it's fairly telling that your immediate reaction to this is "they must be trying to get a free ride". It speaks to a rather warped perception of others, you should get that checked out.
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