Exactly. And people that want to think that we are the single planet in a universe with numbers are you are describing are sort of the definition of arrogance imho.
Hell didn't we just discover that Mars had water at one point? gtfo here of course there is life somewhere out there I don't need 8 graduate degrees to see that. The problem (in my uneducated opinion) is probably the same for them as it is for us: the distance is just too vast and we have no way of navigating, never mind even being able to actually cross such great distances. Every intelligent life form (assuming there are others at this point) all probably would think that they are the only ones out there too.