Originally Posted by
Peacemoon
There’s quite a few issues here so let me try unpick a few for you (I’m a guild leader myself)
Cliques: it’s natural when you are new that you feel like you’re hanging out with a group of friends but you don’t know anyone and they know each other too well, in essence because you are. It takes time to become part of the group.
Remember guilds often have a flow of people joining, and many of them start with good intentions but ‘disappear’ and aren’t active. It means it takes time for people to want to fully invest in befriending new people sometime.
If you are active, friendly and helpful, you will quickly become part of the core guild group however.
Yes sayers: it really depends on the situation and it’s hard to speak generally. Let me just say the other side of the argument for argument’s sake.
When you are raiding as a team the morale of the group is the single most important thing. You want people to enjoy themselves, believe in themselves and make the raid fun.
Sometimes when you are progressing you need to open the floor up so people can add their thoughts on what’s going wrong, and when this happens it’s fine to critique the strategy and come up with something that works better. Most people won’t have too many ego problems with this.
However it’s also important to avoid nitpicking on small things that are inconsequential to the bigger picture and just wear everyone down. On progression fights, but also kills you’ve done before. Sometimes you need to know what battles are worth fighting, and don’t second guess the raid leader for no reason, as it just slows everything up and people get frustrated. So it’s all about getting the balance right.
We had this when we were fighting Denathrius, and one guild member was insistent and vocal that our P1 strat wasn’t working, and were getting themselves quite intense about it and wouldn’t let it go. I was able to pacify them and we were about to kill Denathrius fine, but any setback would make them return to their pet issue, even when it was not related to what wiped us. It’s not jus frustrating for the raid leader, but for everyone else. And while that person is harbouring on about their pet peeve, usually other people can’t speak, so it can be a bit dominating and all consuming.
Finally, guilds are social constructs of people. Whether it’s a guild, a group of friends or an organisation, managing people is one of the hardest things you can do. And not everyone who runs a guild is necessarily going to be a natural born leader, and you shouldn’t expect them to be. WoW is after all, a past time hobby, and guild leaders don’t get paid for taking on the extra community responsibilities (although we volunteer ourselves so usually it’s something we enjoy overall!). So it’s best to remember that.
People who make the experience less fun for the whole guild can sometimes be removed just for how they impact the atmosphere, whether they’re good at the game or not is irrelevant really.