You keep saying something about lying. What do you feel is lying? I've not said anything that wasn't true. There are also other questions at the top of the thread in post 161 that I asked you. I'm curious...
I'm fine with the "mileage will vary". I just raise a brow when I see someone talk about how welcoming the latter is. I don't comment on the general chat because it's rather hit or miss. I can't say I've seen actual racist comments to people outside of the official forum and duty/dungeon finder. One would think that doing so in front of a large crowd who have a "report" button at their disposal would be a red flag.
Being assertive is NOT trolling. It's alarming how many people (including moderators) still have not got that memo.
Maybe it was my server, I don't know. All I know is I turned general chat off when I went to cities. It could be fine for days, but then you would get an hour long argument from people on why black people/minorities don't belong in fantasy movies/games or other similarly shitty takes depending on what was happening in the world at the moment, and then you either leave the area, leave the chat, or become a captive audience.

I disagree. I main MNK, and our optimal rotation requires alternating between a combo of:
DragonKick-TwinSnakes-Demolish/Bootshine-TrueStrike-Snap Punch/DK-TwS-SP/B-TrS-D/DK-TwS-SP/B-TrS-SP. Because I've set these first 6 GCDs as 1-6, the combo is 1-2-3/4-5-6/1-2-6/4-5-3/1-2-6/4-5-6.
Because of how we come out of our opener, every other minute, to be optimal, you should be doing 1-5-3/4-2-6/1-5-6/etc.
This, to me, is a minor gain at most, for what seems like much more work, and I always stick with the first combo, even if it means potentially performing one singular Bootshine without a Dragon Kick buff. This is where the transition stops between "advanced novice" and "sweaty boi." I'm not sweating max potency - I'm doing what I think is most convenient, taking into account fights, how my keybinds are setup, etc. I don't want to break up the Bootshine-TrueStrike combo, or the DragonKick-TwinSnakes combo, because alternating is a pain in the ass, mentally, and yes, in terms of muscle memory.
There exists this section of the playerbase.
Strange how experiences can be so different. I've never encountered any real aggressiveness in FF14 groups, or in my FC for that matter - certainly no death threats, which I would certainly remember. Perhaps it's a matter of server culture? I know in WoW my original server was definitely more high-strung and prone to individuals that were very competitive and very outspoken about it (to put it politely). My current WoW server is a lower-pop server that is definitely more laid-back in that department, though still has its compliment of colorful personalities. I was actually taken aback in FF14 when I decided to level up the Dark Knight job on my Reaper, and on doing some of the earlier dungeons I had people ask me if I was new to the job, and then very respectfully and kindly give their take on the job and how to excel at it - something I haven't seen in WoW since the balmy days of Vanilla.
I don't really bother over much with Discords beyond my guild one, though; and I wouldn't really count the various Discord communities/server as representing either WoW or FF14 all that much - they're microcosms of their own, really.
"We're more of the love, blood, and rhetoric school. Well, we can do you blood and love without the rhetoric, and we can do you blood and rhetoric without the love, and we can do you all three concurrent or consecutive. But we can't give you love and rhetoric without the blood. Blood is compulsory. They're all blood, you see." ― Tom Stoppard, Rosencrantz and Guildenstern are Dead


In terms of culture - WoW has a very weird and toxic trade chat if you filter it out between boost sale spam. In FFXIV, this form of chat doesn't really exist. I can count on maybe two hands the number of times I've used Shout chat (which is only zone wide) for any sort of casual conversation. Most of it is advertising, whether it's for an erotic RP casino in some FC house, or for a hunt train.
A lot of the interaction in FFXIV seems to be in FC-chat (which you choose), linkshells (which are invite-based), or in Say chat (highly personal and right in front of you). These self-selecting forms of chat, imo, lead to less upfront toxicity that we associate with online, anonymous internet usage. It's easier to throw toxicity out in trade chat from Orgrimmar while you're running circles around the bank.
But in raiding, WoW has been much more in line with my expectations of the content itself. In LFR, no one cares, in Normal raids, most people are blindly mashing buttons without thought. In Mythic, things can be competitive but they know 20 people working together requires collaboration more than toxicity, as the Riggnaros-Blood Legion style of raid leading is a good decade out of date at this point. In FFXIV, people take the content either far too seriously or weirdly not seriously at all. Savage has this weird amalgams of tryhards who know the fights backwards and forwards, and people who wouldn't even pass muster in heroic in WoW. It leads to a lot of passive aggressiveness and elitism. That exists in WoW, but there's not this weird pressure to keep the group together and fight through it, which FFXIV has, and which, imo, breeds resentment among the better players. In WoW, if someone isn't good enough in your pug m+ or mythic raid, you kick them without much second thought. Even raiding guilds have extensive trials where if you don't meet the standard, there's a fairly perfunctory demotion/kick without too many hard feelings.
I've seen some whoppers but I can't say I've seen that. You'd think discussions like that in general chat... people would more than know better. I mean, of all the things you can possibly talk about.
The death threats I only saw on the official forums. I've seen 3 and strangely enough, they all were about the same thing... healer DPS. A person stating that they were not comfortable doing it, etc and I couldn't believe my eyes at the responses.
When you were playing DRK, was this in non-mythic dungeons? In non-mythic, I rarely see people talk at all. In mythic, it's usually to insult someone but not always.
I didn't want to bother with Discords at first but they're becoming so hard to avoid now. A few of the high population reddits I moderate require you to use Discord. Most of them, the caveat is that you "use" it, meaning just "be there" but nothing says you have to talk there. If I had to talk in every Discord I'm in, I'd never get any work done.
Being assertive is NOT trolling. It's alarming how many people (including moderators) still have not got that memo.
I've only encountered real toxicity maybe 3 times in FFXIV so far, and I came over from WoW during the exodus period - I'm sure you know what that is.
One was in Heaven-on-High. One player insisted that we, the party as a whole, scrape through every floor with a fine toothed comb b/c he wanted the Aether buff things for armor/weapons. He did not say anything about this at all until the 3rd level when he started getting nasty about us "afking on the teleporter" and was threatening to report us. Encountered him again a few hours later.
The other 2 times were people being impatient in dungeons, wanting the tank to wall-to-wall pull half the damn dungeon.
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On the topic of criticisms, currently finding it really hard to level alt jobs. IDK if it's just a really dry period in the expansions (but a patch just released so it shouldn't be, right?), but queue times for dungeons and 51-60 PotD have been REALLY rough - and I've tried at different times of the day throughout the past 2 weeks. Leveling a PUG/MNK from 1-50 was ok because I had the Hunting Log and Job quests, but 50+ has been a real slog.
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Part of the reason is that Battlegrounds are like ducks.
Hopefully the HoH wasn't recently. Most people now seem to just zip through it and say nothing.
My queue times for PotD are variant upon when I join. If I do it during normal times when people are out of work, etc, it's usually under a minute. Granted, it's usually instant towards the start of an expansion but not when the new jobs start at 70... unless the rumor someone said is true that HoH can go past level 70 now.
Being assertive is NOT trolling. It's alarming how many people (including moderators) still have not got that memo.

Players in XIV are passive-aggressive as *fuck* because it allows you to be an asshole without explicitly violating ToS. Literally, last night I was watching some friends doing P8S in PF and someone screwed up and the DRK in the group told em "nice job!" Right there, being an asshole without violating ToS.
When people bang on about XIV having the best, nicest community, I point out that if you need the Stasi lurking around in the background to abduct people off to gaol, then you aren't actually a nice community - you're just more aggressively policed than others.
It's no better or worse than any other gaming community. Even "basically single player" games like No Man's Sky or Stardew Valley have the same collection of normal people, weirdos, obsessive assholes, and shilling-for-my-50 followers-stream types.
I will say I'll take racist, bigoted trade chat any day of the week over the weird public sex/ecchi uwu daddy/mommy shit that's literally everywhere near the aetherytes in Gridania and Limsa, though. At least I can just easily leave Trade Chat. It's a lot of work and requires a third-party addon to Void List all those fucking weirdos in XIV, and they often start adding their crap to shoutchat too.
I'd rather take the brute honesty of WoW's over FFXIV where nobody points out how to improve for fear of being banned, so no improves and you wipe over and over again until the group disbands.
I never saw much toxicity in WoW. People cussing? Sure. But no one bending over backwards with an axe to grind for another person.
So either you are lying, or you have the worst shitty luck in FFXIV. Cause everything you said about FFXIV is what I have seen and heard in WoW over the 17 years of playing it. Now that I have been playing FFXIV for a year and 4 months, me and my roommate have both only ran into 2 toxic people. Just weird how you have had such negative experiences in the game.
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This has also been my experiences in FFXIV. The community has been nothing but kind and helpful to me. Giving me tips and trying to help me with my classes. And my FC has been so awesome and helpful as well.

Odd cause I'd say I've had quite the opposite experience. Usually people in FF are pointing out the causes of wipes politely.
Meanwhile you do something wrong in wow and you're the scum of the earth. Its was especially bad during Cata's launch. I never tank in WoW due to the way you get treated, while in FF I main tank, and the only complaint i've had was to pull a bit faster.

You don't need character slots in FF. You can have all jobs and crafting jobs in one single character.
You get 2 free retainers as well. Don't need to engage with the shop at all, so it's a silly thing to criticize outside it's existence.
Also, yes, out of sight, out of mind.


If you're a "crafter main," you probably fill up both of those retainers quite rapidly. Same if you're a "glamour main" or if you just like keeping items for sentimental purposes or whatever. You're also limited to 20 auctions per retainer, so if you're doing a lot of AH operations, that fills up fast too. It was nice of them to increase dresser space and free up armory space by eliminating belts, but there's still a lot more to go.
I would be irritated by okay with just paying, say, $5 to get four extra bags on my character. But, what, $2 a month times however many additional retainers you need? It's ridiculous. Especially compared to WoW, which has a higher initial monthly cost, but it's pretty much effortless to make as many bank alts as needed and bounce items and money around between them and your primary characters.
Hell, step one should be making a lot more items and sets armoire-compatible. Like, every single class set (including weapons) should be something you can store in the armoire.
Hint hint, I wasn't actually describing FFXIV.
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Had 0 death threats, 0 berating, 0 real drama. Worst I've had is late night parties that made me feel like these people really just wanted to get it over with quickly and eschew social interaction. Whenever someone mentions "FFXIV's passive-aggressiveness", more often than not it happens to be the paranoid, feverish dreams of the person making the proclamation. "They aren't calling me a piece of shit scrub casual and kicking me from the party for not knowing the way in a starter dungeon as a new player? That's uncomfortably unfamiliar to me! They must be mocking me behind my back! Just look at that '' they threw at me! THEY'RE SO PASSIVE-AGGRESSIVE."

In my case, it's purely from PF prog/clear parties for savage. Most people are chill but there are absolutely people that get passive-aggressive and snippy.
You also get it from trying to ask people to DPS as healers, etc.
It was the opposite with me. Not too long ago I took a break from FF and finally decided to get back into endgame on WoW when shadowlands first dropped. Got to max level and got the best gear I could get from dungeons so I attempted Mythic+0 - +3 not knowing wtf I was getting myself into. died a couple of times, was kicked. tried again, improved, was too focused on mechanics and not dying so my dps was too low for the group, kicked. after a couple of tries with the same results I gave up on WoW endgame and just went full casual again.
Now I do my best not to half ass things and I don't know if it was error on my part. I did watch videos and go out of my way to learn things with no success with groups so I gave up.
FFXIV in that regard is when I hit max level decent gear can be crafted/bought from AH and I can just walk in with a learning party on raids and get experience and eventually start doing clears. Don't get me wrong there are some pretty toxic people in FFXIV and i've had the unfortunate luck in meeting quite a bit of them but when I compare the two WoW shows its toxicity more than FF does. FF just likes to hide it in their cliques and free companies/guilds.