Originally Posted by
bajcli
IDK if it's the forum or yourself you're trying to bullshit here, but assuming that whoever pulls ahead of you in an M+ run is "good with tanking stuff themselves" is being willfully ignorant at best and just very dense at worst. Either way, it's in no way conducive to successfully completing a run, and very clearly just a petty ego trip.
Sure, you can still be learning, finding your limits, whatever, but in a multiplayer game the reality is that not every random person you come across will do exactly what you want and how you want it, so you either adapt or be OK with getting kicked/flamed.
It's just incredibly egotistical to force your hesitant, uncomfortable, slow-ass tanking on 4 other players who probably expected a decent tank, at the same time expecting them to behave however you want them to. OTOH, if you're learning, you should take randoms pulling as an exercise in getting aggro quickly, because accidental pulls happen ALL_THE_TIME, even in organized groups. Picking up adds is also a skill you need.
Or, to completely avoid this, you'd ideally do dungeons with a group of friends if you're 100% uncomfortable with random shit happening and are still uncomfortable with tanking.
All in all, obviously DPS shouldn't pull ahead of the tank, but leaving a couple to die and running ahead to pull another pack alone or with the healer (potentially still getting the previous pack with them because the healer probably got in combat via healing the guy who pulled) is also an objectively terrible play, regardless of whether you're in the right or not.
The best you can do to everyone involved is to get over yourself, pick up the packs, finish the run, then optionally flame the guys who were pulling just for good measure & finally put them on ignore and move on.
(Admittedly I'm assuming here that this whole scenario is happening in M+. I'm sorry if it doesn't, but I didn't want to think that you're in completely faceroll, mostly soloable content, bickering over absolute nonsense that doesn't even matter in the slightest. If anything, that'd be an even worse look.)
TL;DR: Sure, pulling ahead is bad. So is not picking up ninjapulls. Get over yourselves.