Peoples who don't have the courage to broke a relationship and instead do thing behind the back of their partner are really pathetic.
I call bullshit. I seriously doubt he was Mr. Nice Guy up until the point they got married and then these problems started showing up.
Did they not have any conversation before he decided to go back to school and how that would impact their relationship? Was she not able to express her needs before deciding to find comfort with someone else?
The article all points to not enough consideration about what it really means to be married, and just hoping that being married will fix the problems in the relationship.
I find this response interesting. She's bitchy if she wants to actually see her significant other? I mean, my relationship went through a patch where one of us was working early and one of us was late and we were both fucking miserable. I saw her at the door twice a day. You can't keep up a relationship like that and we worked it out. We did that because we actually talked to each other and cared what the other thought. But, in your mind, if someone has an issue with the relationship, then they are just being a bitch. Got it.
I would be hesitant to go that far with the assumptions we get "he wasn't there" and a very onsided version of events as to their interactions. She goes on like he seems to have literally no time for her and her request to 'fix' things was for him to go spend MORE time doing something else as she then goes on to talk abuot how lonely and depressed she feels and might kill herself.... This makes me think there's more than a few details missing. Or maybe I don't see the immediate connect of someone being busy making another feel suicidal. That's a bit of a leap to me and makes me think this is someone who's either looking for attention or really shouldn't be in this situation to begin with.
I didn't say she was perfect. You said she was weak and unfit for marriage and the rest of your post suggested marriage should be this permanent arrangement. It isn't. Also, you are putting all the blame for the failed relationship on her because she cheated and you don't like that. I get it, and she's in the wrong for cheating. But the relationship was dead before she cheated. They both have some blame there.
I completely agree they both share blame. My point is that they should have spent more time considering what it meant to be married before deciding on it, which they didn't.
They obviously had different views on what was important to their lives together and how it impacted their partner.
EDIT - Marriage IS set to be a permanent arrangement. Treat and consider it as such.
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Why? I mean in either sense of the word. A literal prostitute is fine. There's no reason it should be illegal. A woman who sleeps around is fine as long as everything is consensual and she's upfront with her partners about it. What's not fine is lying. The sex is irrelevant.
She needs to drop them both. She is unfit for either one. She is having the husband go to counseling and a weekly lunch. He is trying to make it work while still working and going to school. He is trying to better himself and his life. How in the world is she going to try to hold that against the guy?
Second, the boyfriend is being played to. She hasn't told him one bit that she is taken. He has a child to take care of. He doesn't need a woman like her in the child's life to give them a bad example to follow.
She needs to focus on fixing herself. She is the issue. She is clearly incapable of handling a relationship.
The only way its morally/ethically ok is if the person doesnt know that they are married. If they are aware it is a douche move no matter how you spin it. Takes two to tango even if only one is doing the cheating. You are putting your sexual needs above this persons life. Cheating can have bigger consequences than people think sometimes. If that married couple has a kid does it change anything for you?
Hope her husband finds out and uses it in court to make sure she doesn't get a dime. put her out in the cold and go tell her boyfriend everything so that he drops her too.
Take note guys. This is how pretty much ALL women reason. Monkey branching and hamstering and hypergamy. Disgusting.