No that's extrapolating out of nowhere. Saying "i prefer chocolate milk over strawberry milk" means you would pick chocolate milk over straberry milk, it's only a comparison. It doesn't even say that you like or dislike chocolate milk at all, people's perspective will twist this sentence to find meaning in it where there is nothing more. Specially in this day and age where people are actively looking for people taking sides and looking for fights against their opinions.
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Preferences aren't good or bad, they just are.
Judging someone based on their preferences is hypocritical because everyone has them. The only difference is how much weight a certain preference has based on public perception of a society. For example, someone may judge you if you have a preference based on weight of a person, meanwhile they are completely comfortable with their own preference based on height. Because to them it's not a big deal.
We live in a world where many deem masturbating in front of someone with their consent is weird and disgusting and wrong, meanwhile they casually engage in anal sex, bdsm and other kinky shit. And even I right now, am hypocritical, simply because I see something that people might normally do as strange, full knowing that I'm attracted to other things people might see as weird as well. But my sexual preferences are "normal, because they're mine".
And also, how much can you even control what you're attracted to? Can you (and should you) force yourself into being attracted to something?
So you are narrow minded! Got it! You are fixating on "race" because it is a buzzword, and really just repeating yourself as you usually do. Would you be as vigorous to question ageism? Damnit, do you have any idea how many 18 year olds would probably turn me down cold just because I'm 40 years older? Why is racism significant and ageism isn't?Originally Posted by Josuke
With COVID-19 making its impact on our lives, I have decided that I shall hang in there for my remaining days, skip some meals, try to get children to experiment with making henna patterns on their skin, and plant some trees. You know -- live, fast, dye young, and leave a pretty copse. I feel like I may not have that quite right.
You could maybe make a case for an argument where you're being narrow-minded because you're completely writing off a person based on just one trait.
For example, I prefer athletic girls but I wouldn't mind dating one with a little extra weight if she's otherwise amazing to me. Same for hair color/cut, or intelligence, or something totally different. Since nobody is perfect, and I got my own flaws too.
Unless of course, something like dark skin color is not just undesirable to you, it's repulsive. In that case, you're completely right and not in fact narrow-minded.
That's not what racist means.
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Just doesn't do anything for me. If they're nice they can be my friend but I'm not going to date someone I don't find attractive. I don't understand why people get their panties in a twist because of someone not finding someone attractive for any reason, what does it even matter to you?
Shallow is a meaningless term, there's nothing wrong with having standards. Call it what it is, having standards. It's not going to be beneficial to you or the other person if you're dating someone you don't find attractive, it's just going to result in misery for both of you.
Actually, I'm 58, but by the standards you want to claim, you're just being ageist. There is no creepy to it, you're just trying to feel better about your prejudice. Somewhere out there, there could be someone in their 50s that you've never seen and yet you want to quibble over a handful of marks on a calendar.Originally Posted by Josuke
@Freighter has been, if I recall, fairly clear that her preference goes to skin tone and not specifically race. I gather that dark skin, be the perspective date African, African-American, Indian, Middle Eastern, or Asian, is not attractive to her. Where is the common "race" there for her to be racist against? She simply has a preference on skin tone.
With COVID-19 making its impact on our lives, I have decided that I shall hang in there for my remaining days, skip some meals, try to get children to experiment with making henna patterns on their skin, and plant some trees. You know -- live, fast, dye young, and leave a pretty copse. I feel like I may not have that quite right.
You can have your dating preferences just don't bitch like incels do when they can't bag their manic pixie dream girls.