Originally Posted by
Itisamuh
Giving them the benefit of the doubt, they may have legitimately thought you wouldn't want to go, or wouldn't care that he's getting married, and so they didn't invite you cause they didn't want you to feel pressured to go. We don't know your personality. To some people, that type of thing just isn't a big deal. My lifelong best friend's wife had their second child and I didn't even know she was pregnant. This happened again with his third child. We always hang out when she's not there, so I never saw her. I don't have a problem with her or anything, and I don't think she has much against me either, but she isn't particularly fond of me enough to want to hang out while we play video games and talk about stuff she has no interest in. I was surprised he didn't tell me he was having more kids, but not offended. It may be a similar situation here, so don't jump the gun and cancel your friendship yet.
Either way though, definitely confront him about it in a polite way, preferably in person. If he can't look you in the eye and makes it clear that you're purposely not invited, and it's because she said so, then just walk away. Don't yell at him, don't do like some of these idiots are saying and show up at the wedding to do something immature and prove the girl right for not inviting you. Roll your eyes, sigh, and tell him good luck, and that he'll need it if he lets himself be chained by the balls like that. It's the girl's fault, and contrary to what some people like to say, there's nothing wrong at all with choosing girls over friends. It's to be expected that she'll take priority. However, he should still have the stones to not let her control him, and she should have the courtesy not to try to, so while it's okay for the girlfriend or wife to take first priority, it shouldn't ever actually be an issue if they're both good people and you are too.
If she's as controlling as you make her sound, and he's as spineless as implied, then it's probably not a case of him not truly being your friend, but just a case of him being love struck and desperate to keep her happy. A lot of guys get that way, especially if they aren't the type who can easily find new girlfriends. Don't make a scene, but definitely talk to him and warn him that he's going to have some problems if he lets her walk all over him.