I'm definitely not blonde, but I too have the glass-skin look where you can see a lot of my veins.
Anyway, it was a beautiful wedding and everyone loved it and it didn't cost us an arm and a leg. It doesn't have to. That's what I'm getting at. You're not "doin' it wrong" if you spend less than $5,000 on the wedding. Really, it's OK. No one needs to know how much you spent orchestrating everything anyway.
It's an important day, but like I said, it's one day and it will come and go (and too quickly, might I add). The debt stays with you. Don't start your marriage off in unnecessary debt. :<