So I'm not the first to come here for help and advice and after 2 months I finaly decided to post and ask, so this is as follows im now 18 and my gf is 16 we started dating when I was still 17 and its been going on for nearly a year now, this is just for some insight on the situation.
We leave apart from each other( around 35 kilometers aways from each other) after a few months of dating we started sleeping over each other's house during the weekends which was ok with both my mother and her grandmother(and her husband that has nothing to do with her family) that she lives with because of past family issues.
All of this was always ok up untill recently, her grandmother that she has lived with since she was born was always quite rought with her, she actually hit her when she was like 8 and all, but that stopped for a few years, her grandmother is the kind of person that will get angry with anything in her life and dump everything on someone else, in this case my gf, this was fine since it was just the usual rant.
Now my gf got sick a few months back, she has been having stomach problems and the doctors cant find out what it is, since she leaves in a small town and my mother works at the hospital here, she ended up coming here to the hospital since we could have her checked up much faster and all, she actually came here 2 times and stayed over for the night and went back the day after.
Now the forth time she came over here they suspected she had a bacteria but had to confirm with further exams that were schedualed for this month, also for some reason her grandmother wanted to come pick her up on purpose later in the day after the apointment just so she couldnt stay here and she said she'd call later for us to meet her and for my gf to go home.
Seems all fine, we went out to lunch at a restaurant since we didnt have actual food at my house that day and she needed it due to her stomach problems, at like 4 pm she gets a call from her grandmother who instantly freaked out and said something like "Where the fuck are you, werent you suposed to call me to come home you idiot, are you kidding with me or something?" before my gf even said anything her grandmother said "Go to hell" and hung up.
My gf started crying now knowing what happened and after a bit we called back, her grandmom picked up and started screaming again "you fucking liars you're not sick, you've just been lying to me to stay there, if you dont come back right now by bus ill beat the hell out of you and throw you out of the house". After all this i called my mother so she could speak with my gf's grandmom and confirm that we've actually been to the doctor and all, my gf went home scared as hell of getting beat up and there was nothing we could do.
Since this happened things have been terrible at her house, shes treated like crap, they yell at her for no good reason, if the dogs do something wrong she has to fix it, if her grandmother has to go somewhere she has do all of the stuff at home etc...
It got even worst after my gfs grandmother broke her hip and had to go to the hospital, and shes being taken care of by my gf's grandmother and things are hard since the old lady is just a pain in the ass to deal with, every single time my gfs grandmother comes home she screams at her, wants her to cook, clean the house, wash the dishes, take the dogs out 4 times a day( she already did this, but it was 50-50 between both of them) and any little mistake anyone does at home my gf is blamed for, yelled at, insulted until she calls me crying because of it, every single day.
And for the past days its gotten even worst, my gfs grandmother also took care of an older lady at night, and they were good friends, but 4 days ago the lady in question passed away which means she lost her extra job(shes retired) that brought some money home.
Since then she has been completly impossible to put up with, she insults my girlfriend, and she even started insulting me too after i tried to calmly speak with her about the way things have been going.
Even worst she has been denying food and money from my gf, she gets alot less food for lunch/dinner while her grandmother and husband dont, and she is yelled and threathened if she asks for some soop/rice or anything to eat since they arent giving her enough, they also eat before she gets home from schooll and have been leaving almost nothing for her to have.
Now 2 days ago she asked if I could come over there to spend the day and all(as usual, i normaly go there mid of the week since she has no classes and 1 or 2 weekends, she does the other weekends), her grandmother insisted on saying that she didnt like me anymore but agreed on me going there, suddenly her husband start screaming saying no one can ever come over again, not me or anyone else, and actually went after my gf and tried to hit her and couldnt because my gf ran, all this infront of her grandmother who watched calmly and after said she didnt care about it at all(she used to get mad at her husband if he even screamed at my gf since hes not actualy related to her and he never wanted to help take care of her) but this time she didnt even care, after this happened i got a call from my gf crying once again saying she couldnt take this anymore, she has been feeling worst and worst with all these problems that are actually affecting her health, and to add to that her grandmother refuses to give her any money for her to eat at school apart from her monthly allowance of 20 euros( not even enough for her to pay for the trips here, or even eat for 2 weeks), she also wants to take down her internet that she direly need for her schoolwork that is all taken care of online while keeping any other service that she or her husband benefit of.
To top this off, her grandmother's husband has always been extremly rude with me and my girlfriend, hes drunk 2 out of 3 days, spends all of his day smoking and sleeping and doenst care about anything else then controling the money spent at the house for everyone apart from him.
Now what I ask is what can I do here? I'm pretty sure the pshycological attacks, the insults, the peer pressure and teh recent denial of food can all be seens as domestic violence, its actually specified in the law here as neglicence(for the food) and pshychic agression and denial of freedom for the rest.
I actually have to do something here because I'm afraid that with all the pressure at home, her being sick and the added problems brought on by school, my gf is nearly at a point of either going insane or killing herself with pills which she has actually already considered which is why i came here. Should I just file a complaint with the police and have them help with this or are these events not enough to justify it?
Edit:Also for the past 2 days her grandmother actually threathened throwing her out again, twice, and told she would do it to some people she knows, including my gf's ex rugby coach that has been like a father for her and has been paying her mobile phone bills and giving her money so she can eat at school seeing as her grandmother doenst do any of that.