I had one girl where we were chatting back and forth. It seemed to be going well. Then they asked "which one [ethnicity] do you identify more with? Or should I guess? " something like that. I said "Sure, take a guess!" I never heard from her again.
Then another that messaged me first but then stopped. At that point I was a bit frustrated so I asked why she decided to stop messaging me so I could figure out where I was going wrong. She said it was because I was not a sikh. I just left that alone but that annoys me because my picture is clearly on my profile, I am not wearing a turban, and my ethnicity is listed in my profile, and the fact that I am an atheist is there as well.
I also get lots of messages from people that are really into clubbing which is not for me at all. Its like they don't even read my profile or anything about me.
Everyone I have messaged first I have not gotten a response. It looks like we would be a good fit based on interests and lifestyles but I guess I am bad at starting a conversation.
I just always have this dilemma. On one hand, I want to be the initiator, because, well, it's logical to be the initiator when you are interested in someone. On the other, I don't want to come across as pushy. Granted, I've already received a few messages from people interested in chatting/meeting, but they all seemed cheesy and random, like "Hi, I'm new in this town. Here is my phone number, let's chat". While their profiles didn't suggest much in common with me. So far I've politely declined all such "offers". One girl literally suggested meeting in a cafe nearby in her first message. I guess, indeed, most people don't bother reading profiles...
Like, the only problem is that they travel in small packs. If it was just one girl, I'd be asking her immediately. As is though, they usually have a small group of friends.
Yeah, all I'm saying is like, don't be too set in things running either way.
Well, you don't need to tell me that, I am always the first one on these forums calling people out on impractical traditionalism. But the way I see it, if two people are interested in each other and each expects the other to make the first move, they will never talk. I don't mind to be the first one to start a conversation, I just sometimes don't know how to start it. In real life it is easy: you just say, "Hi", and it goes from there. Online, if I just say to someone, "Hi, how is it going", what are the odds that I will hear back from them?
I have no knowledge about who are on these forums. Would be a bit hard to give a judge on who I would date, haha. But I've seen some cute people around.