Attractive new coworker

[Independent voter]

Do you tell your gf about the attractive new coworker at work?

[Gamdwelf]

Do you tell your gf about the attractive new coworker at work?

Well yeah can't have a surprise threesome. Easier if the GF knows.

[Spectral]

Why would I?

[Aggrophobic]

How do you mean? Are you afraid that she'll be jealous? Just because you work with other people? If that's the case, dump her.

[Independent voter]

Why would I?

That was my first thought but then I thought what if gf comes by the office to drop something off, usually an excuse to inspect where I work, and notices a very attractive coworker, the likely question is: why didn't you tell me about Stacey?

[Gheld]

That was my first thought but then I thought what if gf comes by the office to drop something off, usually an excuse to inspect where I work, and notices a very attractive coworker, the likely question is: why didn't you tell me about Stacey?

Then you have an unhealthy relationship if she gets jealous simply because other women exist.

[the game]

pics or it didn't happen.

[Dug]

That was my first thought but then I thought what if gf comes by the office to drop something off, usually an excuse to inspect where I work, and notices a very attractive coworker, the likely question is: why didn't you tell me about Stacey?

That's a huge red flag and I'd tell you to get outta dodge while you can.

[Gheld]

Does she demand that you tell her these things or something? There's no need to randomly tell her, unless a conversation starts about the attractiveness of coworkers.

Which again, there's no purpose to entertain that line of thought unless
A: you're planning to have a threesome
or
B: Just looking for something to be jealous and controlling about.

[Mirishka]

That was my first thought but then I thought what if gf comes by the office to drop something off, usually an excuse to inspect where I work, and notices a very attractive coworker, the likely question is: why didn't you tell me about Stacey?

If your girlfriend thinks this way, you need a new girlfriend. Because she doesn't trust you.

You shouldn't be obligated to 'report' the attractive people you work with to your significant other. That's psychotic.

[Jotaux]

Just tell her you have a new co-worker and leave it at that. If she says "why didn't you tell me she was so attractive?" just say you didn't notice.

[Torgent]

You could just tell her that this person exists. Leave out the attractiveness. That doesn't need to be stated at all. If she comes and asks why you never said she's hot, you say "I don't find her attractive" or "because her appearance doesn't matter to me"

[Spectral]

That was my first thought but then I thought what if gf comes by the office to drop something off, usually an excuse to inspect where I work, and notices a very attractive coworker, the likely question is: why didn't you tell me about Stacey?

My workplace is filled with attractive people and my wife's not a crazy asshole, so I can't imagine this interaction ever happening. I guess if one of the women that report to me was like model-level gorgeous, it might be worth mentioning.

[Lady Dragonheart]

I almost always let my beloved know about attractive people that I encounter, and vice versa, he lets me know of ones that he encounters. We're not really the insecure type, we like know what the other finds attractive. We're a semi-open relationship, so it's very useful to know what the other finds interesting.

[oplawlz]

Nah man, as others have said that's not a healthy relationship at all. I mean, would you be pissed if you went to her work and found Channing Tatum working there? If so maybe you're made for each other.

[Heladys]

That was my first thought but then I thought what if gf comes by the office to drop something off, usually an excuse to inspect where I work, and notices a very attractive coworker, the likely question is: why didn't you tell me about Stacey?

And the response is why the fuck would I have? I ain't gonna be fucking her.

[Torgent]

Or he could tell her not to expect him to wear horse blinders for the rest of your life, just because he's in a relationship. Letting her think that he only finds her attractive and no one else, is really unhealthy and only makes the situation worse. She'll start to have unreal expectations and it will more than likely cause severe jealousy issues.

There's going to be people out there that you also find attractive, it's only natural. Be tactful about it with your SO and there shouldn't be any issues if the question comes up.

Yes, but that's the kind of thing that shouldn't be brought up suddenly. Some people will always be insecure, no amount of talking will help that. If his girlfriend is one of those, he may not want to just broadcast that this girl is attractive without a lot of talking first.

[Kraenen]

That was my first thought but then I thought what if gf comes by the office to drop something off, usually an excuse to inspect where I work, and notices a very attractive coworker, the likely question is: why didn't you tell me about Stacey?

She sounds kind of insecure if she sees an attractive woman around you and assumes you should be telling her about it.

Either that or she means she wants a threesome. Comes down to tone of voice.

[Torgent]

I don't think he should broadcast it randomly. She shouldn't want such unreal expectations from him, and shouldn't even put him into a corner like that by asking the question to begin with.

Agreed. But ultimately, he knows his partner. If he thinks that telling her about his coworker will cause his gf pain, then I believe he should talk about with her before he tells her abut anyone.

[Bumbasta]

Ofcourse, just to tease her. Just like you constantly keep saying how hot all her girlfriends are.