"Emotional infidelity"... Sounds like something from Orwell, mixed with Saudi Arabian propaganda!
No, I never did. My parents were not the most outgoing of human beings, so I believe they were both afraid of never finding someone else.
Besides, these are the type of personal questions that are not asked - you either understand the reasons and respect the choices that were made, or you don't and stay out of their business.
Don't get caught.
No? Both spouses can work and enjoy their life. However, there is no need for extra curriculars that constitute emotional cheating.
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I've made many other threads in between. I don't see the issue. Don't police me.
Obviously it exists otherwise it wouldn't talked about so much. Why don't you actually ask people who've been burnt.
Personally, I enjoy these emotional affair threads and look forward to them.
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"This will be a fight against overwhelming odds from which survival cannot be expected. We will do what damage we can."
-- Capt. Copeland
And yet in most cases, if a platonic, friendly relationship is negatively affecting your intimate relationship, it's probably because your SO is insecure, at best. More likely just another one of those bat-shit jealous types. /shrug
*raises hand* Tell me not to do something and I will do it, if only for spite. I take orders from no one and no "partner" is going to tell me where I can and can't look. That's not how relationships work.
There is neither an excuse nor a logical reason to repost the same topic three times in as many months.
Talking about something does not mean that it exists. The term "emotional cheating" serves no other purpose than to justify or mask a person's insecurity, character flaws and/or inability to participate in a mature relationship. Jealousy is the lethal blade by which many relationships fall.
They do have similar qualities as those "fail" videos on YouTube.
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So in other words it's impossible to have a friend that's of the opposite sex.
Right........
Actually, according to this model it is impossible to have a friend regardless of orientation. From the wikipedia article on Emotional affair:Originally Posted by Templar 331
Note, however, the line that article starts with:The partner being unfaithful may spend inappropriate or excessive time with someone of the opposite or same gender (time not shared with the other partner).
@Tennisace's November thread on this comes from a Times of India article. Consider this though, India also has a high percentage of arranged marriages and honor killings (which he is dodging) are all too common there.The term emotional affair is used in the media to categorise or explain a certain type of relationship. The Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders, 4th. Edition does not define the term, and its definition is therefore considered anecdotal and subjective.
Arranged marriage:
Source: https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog...anged-marriageWithin India, there are significant differences in marriage customs between the economically advanced southern and western states such as Tamil Nadu and Maharashtra, and the less developed northern states such as Bihar and Jharkhand3. In one large study of close to 14,000 young married women4, a vast majority or 91% of Northern women got “fully” arranged marriages. They had no voice whatsoever in selecting their husbands. Their parents and elders chose for them and they had to cooperate and marry a stranger without any prior interaction or knowledge of their soon-to-be-spouse. In these marriages, grooms from the same caste and religion are considered and the bride’s parents weigh his education, profession, social and economic standing with their ability to afford the corresponding dowry amount5. In contrast, in the economically advanced states, close to 50% of the women had at least some say in selecting their husband, engaged in supervised courtship, or chose their mate themselves. Not surprisingly, the less educated, poorer, and rural Indian women are the ones that are subjected to a fully arranged marriage, usually before they have turned 18.
Honor killings:
Source: http://www.aljazeera.com/indepth/opi...910392176.htmlThe court summoned 67 representatives of the khap panchayats to explain their role in ‘honour killings’. They did that in a written reply, saying it is not they who are responsible for such killings but the families who fail to prevent their daughters and sisters and wives from interacting with men, which results in shame and ostracisation by the community.
They argued that women who feared their male relatives never committed such acts and therefore never had to face such consequences. In short, the khap panchayat representatives overtly defended ‘honour killings’.
Love:
Source: http://www.bbc.com/news/world-asia-india-24170866"Our culture is not like you have in the city. Here our women live behind curtains," said a young man in the crowd.
"The village doesn't approve of love affairs here. They were from the same caste, lived in the same lane in the same village," said another.
The man and the woman belonged to the same Jat community and shared the same gotra - the sub-caste - which made them brother and sister, he explained politely.
I took a round of the village to explore if anyone had differing views. I found none. The neighbouring villages too approved of the killings.
They all said they would not allow young men and women to fall in love as this would "dilute their values".
Some spoke of the "decadent western" culture of urban India and how it conflicted with the old, traditional values of rural India where falling in love is taboo.
If these are the sort of people introducing OP to the topic ... perhaps we should slowly edge away from obsessively controlling our relationships. Or we could just throw another widow on the BBQ?
Source: https://www.rt.com/news/india-ritual-suicide-sati/India’s most infamous Sati case took place in the village of Devrala exactly 22 years ago. 18-year-old Roop Kanwar committed Sati on the funeral pyre of her husband right here in the centre of the village in 1987. It shocked the entire nation, and it strengthened the laws against Sati. Yet the villagers of Devrala have erected a makeshift shrine to Roop Kanwar . So even though the practice itself is banned, the glorification of Sati lives on.
In fact, India has at least 250 Sati temples, including 11 in the district of Sikar alone. Women who commit Sati are worshipped as Sati Devi or a goddess. In Hindu tradition, Sati is an act of piety, and is said to purge a woman of all accumulated sin. No wonder then that villagers from the surrounding region visit this temple for her blessings.
The priest of one such temple, Makhan Sharma, says that once a woman becomes a Sati, she attains healing powers.
“Her respected status means that people’s prayers are answered. That’s why people come here from all around. Our pain and diseases are healed through her blessings.”
With COVID-19 making its impact on our lives, I have decided that I shall hang in there for my remaining days, skip some meals, try to get children to experiment with making henna patterns on their skin, and plant some trees. You know -- live, fast, dye young, and leave a pretty copse. I feel like I may not have that quite right.
There is no "need" for anything, humans just need to eat, drink and sleep, everything else is optional. A life limited to only these things is pretty sorry, though...
That's probably how some relationships work. Those relationships don't sound like much fun though.