I'm not sure what's more of an asshole move...
speaking the words you may or may not naturally use normally OR trying to get other people to tailor their vocab to your own modest sensibilities...
When it comes to a subject like personal attire, this idea gets tossed out so fast you'd think someone found a way to break the speed of light. But word usage? Oh we should make nice and not use terms some people may get offended by. Maybe it's time to bust out ye olde compendium of terms and call out such pusillanimous benighted individuals so that they might extend their anathema further beyond their current limits.