Is it cheap to expect that people will split or pay for themselves when you're dating? I was called cheap for suggesting splitting the bill. Is it actually cheap?
Is it cheap to expect that people will split or pay for themselves when you're dating? I was called cheap for suggesting splitting the bill. Is it actually cheap?
If you invite, you pay. That's how I do it for dates and for hanging out with friends.
Once I've started a steady relationship with a woman I'm fine if she wants to pay time to time as a treat, but I'm fine with paying for the initial dates. I'm far from poor, and honestly, having money and not being a cheapskate does seem to help with some women. it's a win-win for me, I either get a the start of a good relationship, a short-term fling/one nighter, or a fun evening at the sort of places I would go even if it was just me.
It depends on the date and where you met the person from.
I met my wife on Plenty of Fish -- our first date was to play pool and have a drink or two. Since it was our first meeting we agreed to split the bill. I paid for the first hour of pool and she bought the first round and then I bought the next round and she bought the second hour of pool.
If it's someone you know and are asking them out for the first time I think that puts the onus on you to pay for the date. That being said individual results will vary and if you're worried about it you should talk to the person about it.
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This is one of the few cases where gender expectations don't favor the male. It is expected that by default the male will pay for the date unless the female offers to go dutch. It doesn't look good for you to suggest she pay her own way without giving her the opportunity to suggest it herself. You should always be prepared to pay for the date yourself.
I usually just pay for meals because it doesn't affect me one way or another, and just makes the entire process/drama of who pays out of the situation. Granted I haven't gone on 'dates' in a looooong time, it's still the case. I usually just pay.
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Yes, it's cheap. Can also make some think you are poor. xD
I'm unflattered by women that can't afford to survive. I'll generally offer the first round of drinks, then I suggest she get the second. If she says no, then I know we're done.
If I ask someone out, I expect to pay.
If they ask me out, I will offer to pay but the guy tends to wanna be the one "treating". I'll never assume though.
i suppose it depends on what type of girl/woman youre dating.
the woman im in a relationship with went for the cheapest option on our first date, despite me saying she could have anything she wants, just so the bill wasnt as expensive as it could have been.
even now when we go out, she will ask to pay half (which i dont accept).
I don't consider it cheap, but I also wouldn't do it. On the flip side, I think it's nice of the other person to offer to pay half though I wouldn't accept.
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No...whyever would it be. I usually insist to pay for myself unless it's specific occasions or something... And even then, I tend to pay for my own drinks, since they're expensive.
I'm happy to pay, and usually do for the first couple of dates/meets/whatever without even discussing it
but if it's like date three or four and the other person hasn't even offered to pay for drinks, well. Tells me all I need to know, really
In the spirit of Feminism and Equality I never pay for my dates at all and only pay for myself.
For some reason women don't like that, must be the Patriarchy
Well, I'm rather traditional, and do enjoy my male gender roles. So I do like to provide and pay for folks I care about. I've had no issue paying for friends when going out to drink or eat, and I find I usually have better dates if I'm generous and fun rather than bitter, parsimonious, and treating a woman like an adversary.