Probably not common place, but personally I don't see anything wrong with it during couple first dates. One doesn't owe exclusitivity immediately to one person on first or second date.
Last edited by Mistame; 2018-01-20 at 08:01 PM.
From my perspective it seems a lot more common place then when I was 16-21. Maybe it is the increased ease of meeting people, or people my age having more resources and expectations.
With that said, it isn't for me and if I take a girl out and she is talking to other guys, cool and good for her. But I'm not out here competing for anyone, and I won't waste my time with somebody who wants to keep their options open like that.
Maybe it's a culture thing
Well, it is hard enough to handle one girlfriend, let alone more!
No, it's not. You're trying to compare the biologically driven behavior of humans to a behavior that's never been really relevant to humans. That animals do something is not the baseline for something being "natural", especially as it pertains to human behavior. Your base analogy has to start with human behavior lest it be inherently invalid. Certainly there are/were some behaviors that were eliminated or at least tamed due to evolution and civilization, but these aren't necessarily biologically driven and are generally behaviors that affect others or civilization in general. Monogamy is not one of these.
My mom recently reentered the dating world and she went on numerous first dates right after the other. Usually after two or three though it would become exclusive to one person.
It is common. When I was single, I felt free to date whoever I wanted to. Just because I was in a dating relationship, did not mean I was committed to only that person. And I felt the other person had that freedom also. Once you are engaged however, different story.
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I've never done it...but I have no moral objection to people that do. I don't expect immediate exclusivity with anyone. Obviously, there comes a point where exclusivity is expected...or at least some formal acknowledgement on both sides that it is an open relationship.
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What is this thread even..
I have a girlfriend. She's the one I have sex with and spend my free time with.
I also have a work girlfriend. My girlfriend knows about this. The work girlfriend actually spends more time with me than my girlfriend. There's no sex. It's platonic flirting mostly.
I have many other categories. For example, I currently have an ex-work girlfriend cheating on me with my current work girlfriend, and she's probably hooking up with...
Oh. On Topic. What do you even mean by dating?
Last edited by belfpala; 2018-01-21 at 04:17 AM.
personaly it was never for me - getting to know one person at a time was my personal preference, however... i see nothing wrong with dating around. I have also been known to put an end to a potential relationship when he got a little too possessive a little too early, like.. I barely know you and you want use to be exclusive and "steady" ? the fuck? attraction=/=connection. I find a lot of people attractive. but in order to find out if you connect, you have to get to know them. so people date multiple people to see if that connection shows up with any one of them. or sometimes they just date for fun. as long as everyone is on the same page, what exactly is a big deal?
Going to go with the answer someone else gave.
There's dating and there's a relationship.
One does not always equal the other.
If Jenny and John go out once casually, should John turn down a date from Jessie for a casual date?
Until you're making an emotional commitment to someone, I don't see an issue.
Provided there's proper communication and expectations being set in place.
Which most people prefer to avoid doing, and then cause problems because of ..
I'm "old" (closing in on 50) and no. One at the time boys and girls.
You date one person at the time and if it doesn't work you move on to the next. It files under commitment and respect.