I was an only child and we moved a lot when I was young. I learned to fit in and even play well with others, but I'm not a herd type in the slightest. On the other hand, I've been in China for nearly 20 years and I've made a point of studying cross culture interaction. In the abstract, I can discuss high and low context cultures or the Lewis Model. I can pick out patterns and have had some success both in applying theories and helping others to do so.
Yeah, I also really like tigers. I've read a lot about them, I used to sponsor them, I've even gotten to hold a young one. At a guess, I'd find an encounter with even a fat, happy, and well fed tiger in the wild to be a far different experience.
This was my year to find myself pulled into the herd aspect of living here instead of just being on the fringes. Long story made somewhat short, I stepped on something and got hit with a nasty, antibiotic resistant infection. I ended up losing four toes, going through eight operations, and spending months bedridden in the hospital. That's when people that I have known for years started stepping in to fill in for family. Chinese hospitals expect you to have an almost constant group of family to take care of you, and they felt sorry for me being "all alone".
It has been weird. It has been heartwarming, I can see how things line up with theory, but ... I'm just not a herd person. I've been here long enough to adjust, I wouldn't say I'm a die hard loner, but at best I'm somewhere in between.
So (hold on a sec, you know the poll will take a while to show up), how do you fit on the scale? As a follow-up, how would you feel if you were put into an environment that was more herd (or loner) than you are used to?