Originally Posted by
Doctor Amadeus
Yeah, there is no end to the amount of worthless advice that exist and people that dispense it who have no earthly idea of what they are talking about, either because they are looking to sell you something that cost more than they are willing to mention, or because they mean well, and want to sell you something they bought.
I don't give advice for this reason, nor do I subscribe to any silly steps, or mantra or any of that other nonsense. I don't give advice because it simply isn't free it has to be earned through a life lived.
The real question is how do you trust information from anyone who has never been where you have been, lived what you lived, or feel how you feel having lived it. Not knowing everything doesn't mean not knowing anything.
However, most of the nonsense in the OP's list isn't knowing anything.
If knowledge has ever been worth anything for me, it cost something, money, time or mind.
That is why knowing what I want helped me make better choices, otherwise if I am just making choices just to see where the road takes me, then I am on the wrong path. I have done that shit when I was really much much younger, I know where the roads lead, more importantly I know where I want to go and where I don't. That has actually gotten where i wanted to go, now I am just satisfied to keep learning and improving.
I think if spinning your wheels is something you need to do, then you'll likely keep doing it until you don't want/need to.
In general Being in the place you are mentally, physically or emotionally might not be the same place as everyone else, sometimes that means being alone, and not having rules, or manuals or scripts to bail you out either.
I also think being able to critically think, and problem solve alone is valuable. For me that is when I realize what I wanted and didn't and became more comfortable in my own skin.
My Kick in life is I love learning, meaning really learning things, not feeling rushed, or pressured. Reading and researching a lot about biology as it relates to genetics and medicine, I would never have imagined how fun that could be, or learning how to fly a plane.
At some point I'd like to learn a new language, Chinese I think.
Bottom line is knowing what you want, I think is the scary prospect for most.
I know plenty of people who run successful business's they all still struggle with what they want. I don't and the people I know who are the most successful don't and it isn't about money.