Originally Posted by
Shaetha
The best strat for Siege of Boralus is to find a key that isn't Siege of Boralus.
For real though, get invited to someone else's group and they want to be a shit? It's their key. Fuck 'em. You'll just immediately get another group. They'll have to pay the price for being unwashed assholes by how long they have to wait for a tank, and if they don't like it, tell them they should have tanked if they wanted it tanked their way. Don't take responsibility for someone else being an asshole. It's their fault they're an asshole, not yours.
It is their bad for not telling you if you say you're new. Download that dungeon tools addon and they can even tell you the route if they want. Past that, you've done all that can reasonably expected of you.
Anyone that says "It's the tank's job to know beforehand" can fuck all the way off. That's not the tank's job. That's the GROUP's job. The DPS and Healers need to stop shirking the duty that every person in the group has. There are 5 people in the group, and it is every single person in the group's job to make sure you're on the same page before starting.
The reason for the tank shortage is not solely because of this idea, but it's the reason it's so much worse in raids and mythic+ than it should be.
If someone wants to be an asshole, add them to ignore. If people are good to you, add them to friends. Most people in PuGs are going to be assholes, and just learning the fights is a temporary solution to a permanent problem. However, that problem fixes itself once you find people to run with that aren't douchebags. You just have to not be too scared to put yourself out there. If you're nice, people will work with you. If they won't, nothing is lost because you didn't want to see those people again anyway. Finding a group of people you like running with should be the goal of every player in WoW if you do content that you can't matchmake.
TL;DR Assholes exist. Lazy people exist. Don't make it your fault someone else is one or the other. It is never your fault if you don't take the route the DPS/Healer expected if it wasn't discussed beforehand.