I can't find the one I wanted so this will have to do. Ignore all the criticism on it. It's overblown concern but the graphic illustrates the fueling process.
Basically an empty fuel storage version of Starship is launched an parked around Earth. Then 4 - 14 (the graphic counts the initial empty Starship and the last one going to the Moon) Starships holding fuel will load fuel into the storage Starship. You need multiple because Starship doesn't have a very big tank on its own and a lot of fuel is spent just getting it into space. Why not give Starship a bigger tank? Rocket science is balancing fuel to weight ratios - the bigger the rocket the more fuel you need to carry/the more fuel you carry the bigger the rocket needs to be. A fully stacked Starship is already massive.
But once that's done the Lunar lander version of Starship launchs, docks with the one holding all the fuel, the goes on its way to the Moon. Another thing the graphic leaves out is 14 launches does mean you necessarily need 14 separate ships built because a single Starship is reusable. They could do the launches in quick succession.