I'm now 23 years old, and many people are now starting to bring up the subject of kids. I've decided that I don't want them. Ever. I do not want them, never felt the need for them, and by the biological clock, natural instinct argument, I should be going crazy for it about now. I'm not. There are aside from that enough people on the planet. So I am a 'childfree' person.
I'm not saying noone should have kids at all, ever. Have kids if you want them. But don't make it the only socially accepted 'choice'. My mum looks at me funny when I tell her I don't want kids, and is saddened that she won't get grandkids. How is that my responsebility? I didn't choose to be born. I don't we her grandkids. Other people, randomly say "oh you should try and find a boyfriend, and maube get kids, it'll improve your life". And what gives them the right to say that, like they know my wishes, or my life.
I don't have a desire to have a kid.
I don't think I'd be a good parent, I don't have the patience or attention span for one.
I do not -hate- kids, but I dislike being near them. They're noisy, messy, and expensive. And selfish more often then not.
There are enough people on the planet.
I don't want to spend my life raising I kid I don't want, or care nothing for.
I will not change my mind.
There are parents regretting having kids. That says something. Stigmas against women who choose career over children. We do not live in a world were procreation is needed anymore. We're free to pursue our own, personal desires over furthering the species survivability. Yet it seems to me that people are getting noisier over how women are getting 'more like men'. Pursuing careers more, being more educated, doing more 'man stuff'. So?
TL;DR: I don't want kids of my own decision, no hate, but I don't understand why that is not a respected choice socially amongst the majority.
There are extremists on both sides. There are normal people in-between. What do you think? Do you want kids? Do you feel 'pressured' (social or otherwise) to have kids/family? Because of religion, and the agreement to the lifestyle of said religion? Do you just love kids? What do you think of childfree people?
PLEASE do not turn it into a religious/race-related argument! This is a very puzzling subject to me, and I want to have a civil discussion. Please respect it!