Of course it's cheating.
Ditch her, she's trash.
She made out with her friend (wich is a boy or girl..?), and that is cheating - no matter how you look at it.
But still, it's just kissing/making out. So let her know exactly how you feel about it, let her feel bad about what she did then forgive her. It's not like the had sex with someone.
To make it all up fair and square for the both of you, ask her if she'd be ok if you'd also kissed her friend like that. If she's gonna smack the 6 out of your mouth, than you got your answer
And yea, it also depends if you perceive their kiss as a cheat on. Some might even find their partner fucking with someone else and not consider it cheating, but the rest of us "sane" individuals find it not quite ok
Capische?
its kind of a grey area.
it's not as bad as if she kissed a guy, yet still annoying.
I really do not know what i would say myself. i've been in other grey areas myself, like when my x girlfriend asked me to kiss her best friend (female, who became my girlfriend ½ year later). Just to show her girlfriend how good a kisser i was. I didn't like it, because even though she asked me to do it, it still felt like cheating for me. Again one of those grey areas.
Also, it can be considdered a grey area if your girlfriend have internet/phone sex with someone ells. My current girlfriend had "text sex" with an other dude, and it pissed me off a lot. Hell, i've broken up with her like 7 times since that, she always convince me to come back to her though.
Here is what I'd be a little concerned about. Girls do that around guys because they think it turns guys on. And that's what your girlfriend was trying to do. Turn your friends on. Why else would she wait until u were gone?
Knowing if it is cheating or not is useless. What matters is if it bothers you or not.
I'd consider it cheating, yes
Originally Posted by Vaerys
1) Drinking to excess will get people in trouble almost every time, especially if there is attraction between people other than your girlfriend. If you don't feel comfortable with your...pansexual girlfriend...making out with someone else, you probably shouldn't be dating her. Or drinking that much (your liver will thank you in 20 years)
2) Your girlfriend is a hypocrite if she thought it was okay to make out with her female friend but doesn't like the thought of you making out with one of your female friends. Again, probably not the best person to date if that's the attitude she's going to have.
3) A true pansexual probably wouldn't have needed to get drunk first before deciding to make out with someone of the same sex. /shrug
"I'm the Doctor. I'm a Time Lord. I'm from the planet Gallifrey in the Constellation of Kasterborous. I'm 903 years old and I'm the man who is gonna save your lives and all 6 billion people on the planet below. You got a problem with that?"
-The Doctor, Voyage of the Damned
Depends on your opinion of what cheating is. IMO, sex is cheating, kissing is not. But if my gf would kiss another girl if she's bi/pan-sexual I wouldn't accept it and get really mad for it. I wouldn't break up over a kiss, but if you make it seem like it's okay for her to kiss it can only get worse from there.
If you two are in a relation ship and she made out with someone, it is cheating! The fact that she did that in front of others (your friends) means she just dont give a shit what you think. Time to drop her.
It's cheating obviously it bothers you. The thing being is this person someone you can see yourself long term with? she has a lot of baggage and dosn't seem to consult you at all when she decides to make a choice about something. Dosn't matter how good she looks, eventually she will be fucking other guys and girls using that same excuse. I'd kick her from the raid.
Going to add in one last thing, the fact she waited until you left the car to make out with her friend, just shows you that she knew you wouldn't be okay with it and so she waited until you weren't around to do it, there is a small chance she may do more of those kind of things behind your back too but you may or may not find that out.
I normally wouldn't consider a single drunken kiss cheating, but then I saw this part:
This says it's cheating. If you wouldn't be okay with your partner doing something, you shouldn't do it either. If she doesn't have enough respect for you to treat you the way she expects you to treat her, I see no reason to continue your relationship.
I'm just saying don't be so harsh on her as alcohol clearly affects peoples judgement. If she drinks all the time, then ya I wouldn't deal with that shit either, but if it's a once in a blue moon ordeal, then he should just make sure he's with her when she's drunk.
Last edited by muto; 2012-12-29 at 12:14 AM.
Warning: Discussing sexuality is forbidden, so let's drop it please. Thank you.