Though there are elements of sexuality in this situation, this is NOT meant to be a discussion on sexuality. You could change all parties involved so that it is strictly a heterosexual situation and I feel it would have the same resulting answer.
Saw this post on a Facebook group I'm in. I chimed in (will post my reply at the end of this post) and was blasted for my view on this situation. Please read and answer if you think this was was justified in her reaction, was she wrong, and do you consider this to be cheating?
My reply:CRAZY situation...a "straight" friend of mine whom I've known for nearly 2 decades let it slip to his fiancee (a wooomann) he and I shared a kiss after a night of fun, dinner bar-hopping, and yes drinking...I was not that fond of her when they started dating and I suspect the feeling was mutual....I saw her as NEEDY and CONTROLLING, and I guess she saw me as some sort of a threat to their relationship... I spite of (RON's) constant efforts to throw us all together I always found some excuse to avoid the whole scene much to his frustration...I simply avoid tense atmospheres...When he told me of the engagement like a good friend is supposed to do (as far as I'm concerned) offered congrats, and showed support in spite of my personal feelings about her.... Now he has confessed to her about our little intimate moment, she has FORBIDDEN him to have any more contact with me, nor is he to have any more male friends, she constantly needs to know where he is and what he's doing...(WTF)...Now he's torn, he wants us to still be friends, but he "LOVES" her too. I told him his first loyalty is to her since they are about to marry... I must say I am more hurt than angry...and personally, I think if he marries this controlling ***** It would be the mistake of his life...but I need to keep my mouth shut....OPINIONS are welcomed...HELP guys...
Hate to play devil's advocate but even putting aside your opinion of her, the 2 of you did overstep boundaries by kissing. If it were a girl he kissed instead of you I'm 100% sure she would be telling him he couldn't see her again either. He borderline cheated on her with you. She has every right to not want you near him. Yes HE made the decision to kiss you and should be held responsible for doing so but YOU also made that decision to kiss him too and are equally responsible for the kiss. You couldn't be held accountable for the near/semi cheating but since you knew he was with someone before it happened, you are equally to blame for it. A kiss can be cheating. A text conversation can be cheating. Sending/receiving nude pics can be cheating. Cheating isn't just fucking someone.