I guess badass women warriors aren't allowed to fall in love/have feelings/whatever, because it automatically tosses theircharacter develpoment (her what, sorry? she had character development on the show? huh, here I was, thinking she has been the exact same person since her introduction without any development whatsoever) into the trash can.
Except there has been mad queen theories about her for over a decade, even before the show started. There has been plenty of hints in the books, and just as many in the show as well. Just because most people ignore it, doesn't mean it's not there.
Did she do it to save the north? I was under the impression she did it partially to win the north, and partially because of Jon. Also, she's not one bad day away from being Joffrey with tits. She's already worse than Joffrey. At least Joffrey was a villain, plain and simple. Everyone knew he's a sadistic idiot. With Daenerys though, she pretend she's this great savior of the people, and yet she gives as much of a fuck about the people as Cersei does. Meaning zero. All she wants is her throne, no matter how many people she has to burn along the way to get it.
They don't trust her mostly because of what Sansa said to Daenerys. Men do stupid things for women. They realize that with her in the picture, Jon will always put her ahead of the Starks, or the North, and will do whatever Daenerys demands of him. Which is the exact same thing Varys says, when discussing their marriage with Tyrion. Jon ruling alongside her would be the same thing as her ruling alone. Jon would do whatever she wanted. Though hopefully he's starting to open his eyes, since in this episode he DID disobey her, by telling his sisters about him being a Targ.
Sure, Jon is an idiot, on that we agree. As for Daenerys proving her capacity to rule in Essos - sorry, what? If anything, Essos proved how terrible a ruler she would be. Like, this was the number one reason why GRRM even kept her there so long. To show the readers she can't rule whatsoever. Everything she does turns to shit. Her every decision makes people suffer. Her number one way of solving problems is BURN THEM ALL! Without her advisors to restrain her, she would most likely burn entire Slaver's Bay by now. Also, yes, let's go the retarded route, and make it all about cocks - sure, why not.
There's a difference between not wanting power, and actively avoiding it like Robert. Jon never wanted power, and yet he accepts it, and does his best for his people. It has been the theme of many works of fiction, where the people best suited for power, are the people who want it the least. Jon didn't want to be Lord Commander. And yet he accepted it, and did everything he could to save the Wildlings, the Night's Watch, and basically everyone, even though it did cost him his life. He didn't want to be Da King In Da Norf, but still accepted it, and went south, despite everyone warning him against it, to secure reinforcements.
Everything Daenerys does, she does for herself. Yes, even going North wasn't as selfless as some people seem to believe. On the other hand, everything Jon does he does for others. Gee, I wonder why people are starting to think he might be a better ruler. Probably because he has a cock...