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i think players stopped caring somewhere during those 15 years of doing the same thing over and over in different colored environments, op, hth
Empathy goes both ways.
When you did not receive help there are many reason of such, maybe the guy is on his/her way to legal blindness playing the game with all the assist mode on, maybe he was just watching netflix, maybe he family got the covf and he is in a seriously bad mood, maybe he lags like shit and he never see your character, or maybe he was in a fight with his dad/mom/wife/husband for cutting his/her cable for playing too much while you are dying.
The lack of empathy starts when you assumed he ignore you on purpose, and initiate a negative message ASSUMING just that. And people just respond with YOUR lack of empathy with even more lacking of empathy.
Make sure you yourself offer empathy to others (like consider all possibilities for why they are unable to help), before you demand empathy from others.
Last edited by gobio; 2021-05-07 at 08:54 AM.
This is why I never initiate a fight if I'm not specced for tanking and I'll slow DPS to make sure I don't get aggro. I like helping others, but I learned a long time ago not to expect help.
Also, I'd prefer someone tell me if they've never done a dungeon. It sucks that apparently that runs the risk of getting kicked (I'm guessing only if you're DPS), but I'd rather take 10 seconds before fights to write a one sentence explanation than deal with a lot of unnecessary stress and deaths. I don't know what's so difficult about a quick glance at the adventure guide, Blizzard couldn't have possibly made it easier without making DBM part of the core interface, but most people can't seem to be bothered to do that. Believe me, it is obvious who hasn't done certain dungeons before, don't think by being silent people won't have noticed by the first boss.
Anyway, I like helping out, but I admit I don't always pay attention in the outdoor world. The amount of times my cats get in front of the monitor when I'm trying to fight something difficult can not be understated either. :P I have target-of-target turned on though, so I usually see when whoever has aggro is in trouble and assist if I'm able.
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I'd like to say it sounds like bystander syndrome, but since your own chances of success go down when the person tanking the elite for you dies bystander doesn't seem quite correct. I get that there's no obligation to help others if they're not in your group, but when actually increase your own chances of failure by not helping the logic goes out the window. I wonder how the response would've been if after I died the elite killed them as well?
The most difficult thing to do is accept that there is nothing wrong with things you don't like and accept that people can like things you don't.
I had a fun experience when doing WoD reputation for flying. There was some rare or elite that I killed just before other person got there or tagged it. He kept sending me stuff like "I'll fuck your mom, your dead, I'll come there and beat you up" for 30 minutes. Completely insane.
Some people get triggered easily and hard. Especially if they made a mistake and can't admit to being bad. Perfectionism is a big problem in games I think? Healthy Gamer Dr K is it? On youtube talked about it once or twice.
Well, I do agree with the other posters here that I also would understand your whisper as passive-aggressive.
I never expect other players in the open world to do anything for me - it isn't their job - but if someone does something for me I throw them a thanks or help them out. I can understand your frustration, but I can even more understand that the guy you whispered was bothered by that you not only felt entitled to his help, but also whispered him with a clear stated critique.
I should mention that I never have friendly name-plates on - they are completely useless for me and just clutter my screen, so other players in the open world are more or less invisible for me.
My advice? Put bare mininum damage in next time, let them deal with it, unfortunately World Content is a dog eat dog world, assume nobody is going to aid you because that's just the reality of it these days, you've gotta be an asshole in a world full of assholes just to get by.
When wow became more of a job i guess, is the thing of "i can't have fun while doing this "off-topic" thing, i have to grind and get more ilv/ap" or "no time for noobs just want to kill this thing quickly and go away"
But see, you went a bit passive-aggressive, people are on the edge, they will lash out for less, so, even you stop caring i guess?
One day i was creating groups to kill the rares in bfa, the corrupted part of mop you know, those areas had massive lag in the first weeks, so it was hard to cal everyone, and some people would start the fight an just blast the rare without waiting, one guy was so mad that he didn't get invite that he lashed out, said any racist/xenophoby thing he could and mute me, now and then he unmute me to say more.
Because there is no need to help and work together.
I really think that is what it comes down to.
You can't *expect* help when help is not needed and the other person doesn't require it himself.
Open world content is such a bore in this game, I wouldn't be able to bother for anyone but myself either, especially in the maw.
Last edited by KrayZ33; 2021-05-07 at 06:23 AM.
It's kinda weird... How they are supposed to go on their knees and apologies for something like this.
I wonder if he does the same in the real world. If someone didn't hold up a door to him. Just walks up and "why didn't you hold up the door, huh?". My guess is no, but that's what's being asked of the strangers in this situation.
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He at least get to see the person not holding the door for him and thus have a lot more information compare to a stranger playing a casual portion of WOW not committing to helping him, sure he still doesn't know what is in the person's mind, but the OP lacks empathy he doesn't care either way.