I completely agree. I enjoy mmo's because playing with humans is far more interesting gameplay wise than playing with bots. That doesn't mean I want to socialise with or have to 'be happy, make friends' to get a group and play the damn game.
I played counter-strike for years where you log on get into a game and play. I never talked to anyone. I played age of empires games online and never spent anytime talking to anyone there either. Same with diablo 2, same with pretty much every game that has multiplayer in it but isn't a mmo. The experience was better because it was with people but there was no 'socialise to play' crap tacked on.
Don't tell me to go play a single player game because I don't want to socialise in a mmo. Socialising is part of a mmo and lots of people enjoy it. It is not the key distinguishing feature that should define how everyone plays, however.