This is precisely one of the reasons things like sleeping around and adultery are forbidden in so many religions/cultures. Mostly to protect the women. Serious btw.
What you have just told me honestly is disgusting. Not only is it dishonest, but it's selfish on your part. Also, what bout disease as I'm assuming you're all sleeping together (by proxy! ) How do you know that you aren't spreading an illness to them? Have they all been recently tested? Do you know they are monogamous in regards to you? What if they aren't? What if you get an STD then give it to the others. Do YOU get regularly tested?
tut tut.
the worst part of this, is that there is no consequence. There is no punishment. Wanna know why it's so common? That's why. No one considers the human cost of emotions and the hurt it causes, no one considers the diseases, and no one is ever meaningfully punished in a public light. Those few who have been hit with lawsuits and what not over stuff like this (yes, it has happened), lost money, or lost their children... BEEN PUNISHED... ask them how quickly they would cheat or sleep around again. You are dealing with PEOPLE, NOT objects. Have compassion.
Remember! Peace!
Last edited by d0e1ow; 2013-11-24 at 03:46 PM.
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How does one realistically plan to marry more than one girl? How do you consider any of these relationships (relationship = 1)? These are glorified lies and you're a douche for seeking council from a forum to further hurt and deceive these women. Did you come here because your friends (if you have any) have too much integrity to abate you? Learn to respect women, they are your mother, sisters, and with luck, won't be your wife or baby's momma. Know that karma can be a bitch.
First, I realize this story is made up and designed to get a rise out of gamers. Even if it were true, who would look to 14 year old gamers for life advice?
But I'll play along. You have said that each girl is unaware of the others. You have said that you have discussed or implied marriage with at least one, probably more. So you have intentionally led each one to believe they are in an exclusive relationship with you. Whether you admit it or not, this is the covenant you have established with these women. You don't need a written contract, that is just denial double-speak.
But in fact this is a lie. You are telling them one thing and then doing the exact opposite. I have no idea how you define 'cheating' but to the rest of us this is the exact definition of cheating.
If you honestly want to choose one and have a legitimate relationship with her, you have to explain to this person the truth and then they can decide if they can live with your behavior. Remember a relationship is a two-way street, not something designed just for you. Without the truth, even if you drop the others, what stops you from just doing it all over again?
Sounds like you have no interest in an actual relationship. Rather you are just considering choosing one as a kept woman.
Top fucking thread, mate.
It's not a properly open relationship if they don't know about each other. What I recommend is pretending you have some kind of fatal character flaw that means you can't pursue a real relationship. Something like you get incredibly jealous, and it wouldn't be fair upon them to have to put up with it. Bonus points if you manage to work in the line "the people I love will always be the ones who pay". Out-fucking-standing though. Bravo.
It's called basic principles, which you obviously do not have. You feel that you can operate different from the norm, and some how basic principles do not apply to you. Every single one of these girls would be mad if they found out the truth, ergo you are cheating on them.
Quit trying to justify your stupidity with their lack of knowing what a cheating person you are.
Last edited by Åmbulance; 2013-11-24 at 04:01 PM.
If you're dating in any English speaking first world western culture (unless you're a Mormon) then the unspoken rules of having a relationship is that you are exclusive with that person.
That you know you have to lie about what you do when not with one of those females to maintain these various relationships is your self realization that it is in fact cheating.
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There is no proof that any of them would be fine with it either.
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You say the relationships are "open". If they already are OK with you sleeping with other women, then maybe they will understand your situation if you just tell them.
It's the lies that's wrong, not the sex. Just tell them!
Last edited by Skurupu; 2013-11-24 at 04:01 PM.
What? This doesn't even make sense. You know the word "OPEN"? The whole point of it is that you are telling your significant other. Otherwise it is not open. Cheating in open relationships is impossible - because both parties are, you know open about it. But it also means it is logically impossible to have an "open relationships without telling".
It sounds like you want to discuss whether cheating is wrong or not, which is fine to discuss, but don't dress it up as "open relationship" just because it sounds better, when it is the OPPOSITE of open relationship.
If this was reddit this would be posted in r/thathappened.
Stop feeding the **oll already, its painfully obvious.