Advice: Do I go and visit my friend in jail?

[Phlegethon]

You can't actually think that, right? Almost everyone, world wide, cares about and protects the reputation they have spent a lifetime building. IQ has nothing to do with the fact that people will judge you based on who you surround yourself with. It's a basic human instinct, whether you are smart or not.

Nah, that's just shallow people that think that "reputation" actually matters. That is closely related with their IQ.

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I mean comparing having child porn to theft is incredibly telling. Also you clinging to a few short term studies

It states "she", as being raped by women is not that bad (yay equality), that is how it would compare...

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people are fucking stupid and with how social media and shit is these days if some moron finds out he's regularly visiting someone the law considers a pedo or something they're throw him under the bus and rail him just for some internet fame...does not matter if he's not the same...its guilt by association. Sure, i think it would be fine to go see the friend once just to try and understand the situation but any more than that and he's putting himself in danger of having his reputation and life ruined

Them being fucking stupid is what I said :-)
You not wanting to associate with fucking stupid people is a personal choice.

[EqualPoint5]

Bro, if this is your true friend then you have to go and visit him. You should know that there are very few good friends. Moreover, you dont know all the details of his story

[Gaebryel Quintyne]

I am with people on who say that you should visit him and find out the whole story. If he is a good friend or you are a good friend to him, he would "probably" not lie to you and tell you the whole story. Depending on that, you decide on whether to stay friends with him or not.

[Aeula]

What's the context? Are we talking about him having a nude of some 17 year old that he didn't know was 17 on his phone? Or a portfolio of naked 12 year olds in creepy situations and positions?

[Dudenoso]

My friend was charged with child porn and it pretty much ruined his life.

He was 18 and dating a 17 year old, she sent him a pic and her mom saw it on her phone and called the cops. He got charged and found not guilty, but still had the stigma attached with the charge and ended up moving across the country.

I would move the hell away too.

No one needs a parent like that in their lives.

[Fuiking]

I guess I'll repeat my clear answer for you if you're having trouble understanding.

Yes people who have footage of that saved on their computer should, and probably will, be raped with glass.

Please don't reply with you mimicking back my response again. It's getting annoying and I don't like re-re-re-re-anwering idiots with the same thing.

but a guy of 20 fucking a 16yo in my country is allowed. So by law he shouldnt be imprisoned. But my friend, I find your reasoning as sick as they can become. Its scary you totally have no remorse about legality. Your speaking like a random PVV'er.

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I didn’t say that, I asked the OP if he thought so.
For me I don’t think pedophilia is a disease, however I think people who think about children like that can be taught and helped do the chances they’ll go after children is reduced or removed. Which, again, is something up to each and every person to figure out.

I agree with you, problem is they wont do it. The gut feelings of people are: ''OMFG DIRTY PEDO LETS SHOVE A GLASS THING UP THERE BUMHOLES AND MURDER THEM!'' Making it for them extremely hard to find help for there problem.

[Hayduke]

OP here. I posted this weeks ago and no one responded until recently so I'm going to read through. I didn't disappear

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The individual was found to have images/media on his computer. I have no idea the specifics other than that.

[Freshouttajail]

So I never expected to be in this situation

A close friend I have known for a few years went through some "family stuff" last summer and disappeared from the grid for a few weeks worrying everyone. He reappeared and we spent the summer hanging out and being in a volleyball league together.

A few months later in summer I get a text from him. In the message he told me he got busted for child porn and will be going away for a while. I haven't heard from him since. The few articles I have found indicate that his disappearance seems to coincide with his bust.

WOW WTF

This young man is in his early 20s, attractive, good career, all around good and genuine person. I care about him as a friend but this is pretty terrible.

A mutual friend went and visited him in jail (I think he is awaiting trial. I'm not sure but I check court records often and haven't seen anything). He is being held about an hour away from me. Do I go visit to show my support even though this is a horrible thing?

I mean I guess he has a real problem and he needs help. I don't know what to do.

Child porn. Fuck that. I've left people behind for much less lol.

[schwank05]

Depends on the situation if he was banging a 17 year old when he was 18-20 and she sent him some pics then I guess that isn't so bad, but who the fuck wants to date a high school chick when your not in high school? Or was he looking at pics of little girls or boys under 16? if that is the case he deserves to rot in jail and anything else he gets because of it.

[Muajin76]

My friend was charged with child porn and it pretty much ruined his life.

He was 18 and dating a 17 year old, she sent him a pic and her mom saw it on her phone and called the cops. He got charged and found not guilty, but still had the stigma attached with the charge and ended up moving across the country.

18 and 17...how on earth do they consider that child porn. I'm sure high school kids do that sometimes, especially the freaky girls. ;P

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Not giving advice. But he’s your friend. If he’s in prison then the matter legally is resolved he can’t hurt children now so. It really is up to you maybe you can help turn his life around. If not those are the consequences of his actions not yours.

What he said.

[Celista]

I mean I guess he has a real problem and he needs help. I don't know what to do.

It is 99.999% likely that he has a real problem. I know that everyone on the internet has a horror story about how some 18 year old got busted for "child porn" by having photos of his 17 year old girlfriend on his cell phone, but the reality is that most people who go to prison for child porn have A WHOLE LOT OF CHILD PORN that was downloaded on their computer, it is EXTREMELY clear that they are a pedophile and the underage minors in the photos/videos are very, very clearly underage. Your friend is likely not going to be honest with you about the type of porn that was found, which is why so many of these "stories" about innocent victims going to jail circulate on the internet.

I can't choose for you what you should do, my recommendation is to spend a lot of time thinking about the quality of your friendship with this person. If they didn't tell you how long they were going away for and what happened then I very highly doubt this person was a very good friend. I think you should probably distance yourself, but again it's your choice.

[smityx]

He's probably the target of the:

[Amerissis]

You go there and talk to him! If he's not convicted yet, he might be innocent. If he is, there might be an explanation, like being 20 and having a picture of a 17 year old = child porn. Maybe he really, really regrets it. Talk to him, find out what's what and then decide if you want to see him ever again.

[Vermented]

Do I go visit to show my support even though this is a horrible thing?

The issue is also which questions you want answered. "Child porn" is a horrible crime. Did he commit that crime becourse he is mentaly ill or did he do it for money? And what exactly did he do? As 20 y/o had intercouse with a 17 y/o (which is illegal in that juristiction?) or with an 8 y/o...

If he is a friend you might want to know more details before you make up your mind. I guess i would.

[Fastlane_hellscream]

[QUOTE=Phlegethon;50892701]Nah, that's just shallow people that think that "reputation" actually matters. That is closely related with their IQ.

Naive much...

[Phlegethon]

Naive much...

Weak much?

[Viklad]

you should go and see him and find out the full story, the legal crime and the actual situation are often different, for example in the UK if you are 16 and in a relationship with a 15 yr old, and you have sex with her/him that is rape. even though in every way it was consensual, people have and will continue to be put away for this because the parents or a 3rd party found out and reported it.

it reasonable to say that he isn't a straight up bad person and maybe he found himself in a situation like this, where he was speaking to a girl that either said she was 18 or never mentioned she was underage and he is essentially guilty of not being careful enough and being unlucky.

I dunno, my opinion may be polarizing here but let us know how it goes. My take no flame please.

[Lochton]

So I never expected to be in this situation

A close friend I have known for a few years went through some "family stuff" last summer and disappeared from the grid for a few weeks worrying everyone. He reappeared and we spent the summer hanging out and being in a volleyball league together.

A few months later in summer I get a text from him. In the message he told me he got busted for child porn and will be going away for a while. I haven't heard from him since. The few articles I have found indicate that his disappearance seems to coincide with his bust.

WOW WTF

This young man is in his early 20s, attractive, good career, all around good and genuine person. I care about him as a friend but this is pretty terrible.

A mutual friend went and visited him in jail (I think he is awaiting trial. I'm not sure but I check court records often and haven't seen anything). He is being held about an hour away from me. Do I go visit to show my support even though this is a horrible thing?

I mean I guess he has a real problem and he needs help. I don't know what to do.

You can still go visit without being in agreement of what he has done. For some, it can be a thing that needs to be processed and handled with treatment and talks. Just to underline again, the fact that you visit your friend doesn't mean you have to be in support of what he has done.