Last edited by crewskater; 2019-05-31 at 08:34 PM. Reason: typo
That's the thing, you are pushing a double standard, something you claim to want to fight. if you want the same standard, then she should be allowed to absolve herself of custody, and dump it in his lap 10 seconds after it's born. I'm pointing out that she would be literally doing the same thing as he would.
Having a baby requires only one willful action between two people. Period. If no other action is taken, that baby is an inevitability. So, i you think he should be able to avoid responsibility for the baby by giving her custody, then she should be allowed to do exactly the same, right?
That's why it always ends up in one of two issues. Either people want to take bodily autonomy away from women, or they want men to not have to be responsible for the consequences of their actions.
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I agree, it should be done before conception even happens. If they want to sign a contract, great, they both sign it.
I think the people who like to overlook this fact tend to be the ones who also have the most critical things to say about single mothers. We see a lot of that sentiment around here, unfortunately. I wouldn't be completely surprised if they're also the types who claim that women have a 'biological predisposition' to be care givers and therefore, should take on a disproportionate amount of work related to child care, ironically enough. After a child is born, the one and only thing a woman can do that the man can't is to breastfeed. That's it. Your cultural vs. biological remark is spot on.
I was trying to do a quick search to find recent statistics regarding sole vs joint custody in a divorce scenario (without much luck), so I'm hesitant to say that joint physical and legal custody is more common now. It may not be, mainly due to the reason already brought up, but its popularity is definitely growing and, study after study, shows it to be the best possible scenario for the child.
That doesn't serve the welfare of the child, which is the basis of child support legislation. Women don't have that right, so there's no reason to give such a thing to men. And giving them both that "right" hurts children, for no real gain, and addressing only an entirely manufactured and imaginary sense of injustice.
"I'm pro life, I really hate the idea of helping a child have a good life though."
You people really don't see how ridiculous you look to everyone?
Fine, and she can have every right to say she doesn't want it,a nd he will take care of it, just like he can do to her.
The only issue is that if they both don't want custody, it would become a state responsibility.
It would also have to be completely voluntary by both. So, if he said he didn't want custody, and she said tough shit... then there's not much he could do about it, and vice versa.