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there is nothing offensive about that question, parents like to make conversation with couples that may or may not have kids. its called FINDING COMMON GROUND.
Lighten up man
No sense crying over spilt beer, unless you're drunk...
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I (we) got asked this maybe 3 weeks back, gorgeous friend and I were out to lunch and the server asked how long we'd been together, since we've eaten there a lot and she'd recognized us. We'd basically both said in unison we're besties cuz our besties both had kids and we don't like kids, so hanging with out besties while their kids are around (both under a year and... very cranky) just ruins our day.
Felt like she wanted to push us together "I always thought you two looked so cute together" lol yadda yadda. Didn't really seem rude, but it's in the ball park of becoming rude - which is exactly how I feel the "having kids" question can come off. As others have mentioned, there can be a lot of heartache associated with the question for some and in 2016, more and more people just don't want to go down that kid having path.
I still don't get why it triggers people so much. It is just a simple question, like where you're from?/are you single?/what plans for the future do you have?
You are not obligated to answer, but you have no right to get mad at people for asking those questions, unless they intentionally ask them to make you uncomfortable.
People are curious creatures and you can't live under a rock.
If you don't want to have kids that's perfectly fine, but you can't honestly expect people to read your mind, thus they ask so that they know your stance of the issue.
Getting mad at them for doing something they have no idea bothers you, especially when you don't tell them, just makes you look petty, selfish and anti-social.
Just the very unintentional uncomfortability. Every question can have that same triggering of the unknown. "Aww, cute puppy" "OMG I just lost my dog of 20 years, he was the ugliest dog ever but i always called him cute cuz he seemed to perk up a bit like he knew he was ugly, so how far you call this one cute! Asshole!" but since people have attachments to kids, it can hit a bit harder I suppose.
Not as much as I hate people who say things like:
"A 3-year-old psychopathic tornado just tore through our house."
"My mom said the K word again..."
"I barely remember to feed the fish. If I wake at 2am it's to empty my bladder, not feed a child"
Along with delightful words such as: Mombie, Dadicts, Breeders, etc.
Childless people can be just as rude.
Comment as in my comment, which then would imply I offended you, most likely because I hit the mark, which in turn would make me revel in the knowledge that I did just that.
Or comment as in the hollow shit people say to pretend their pointless existence is something more despite being miserable?
Hmm, I just realized that either way works for me .