Yeah look, I'm open to talking about anything and open to having my mind changed on everything. I can talk about things and disagree without calling someone stupid so when people are insulting over a casual conversation I'm not going to engage with that person specifically, that's all I meant. The subject; and thinking about it from many angles still interests me a lot!
Well, for me personally I'm against colonisation and expansion for a bunch of ethical reasons. I would hope in time we would only do it for the explicit purpose of preventing our own extinction and (if life isn't found elsewhere) the rest of life on Earth. There's a lot to talk about with just that topic alone, and I went into briefly in another thread here in regards to colonising Mars but the gist of it from my perspective is that outside of preservation I don't feel like we have a right to colonise other worlds when we can, and should, live within our means.
My basic argument on that front is that life on Earth was single celled and uneventful for billions of years, and that it was only comparatively recently that anything "interesting" biologically happened around 500 million years ago. Say an alien species came along during those 4 billion years, which was the vast majority of time that has passed after the formation of the Earth and said "well this world is fine for colonisation, nothing but slime". Going out to colonise other worlds, we'd be those invaders; I don't think we have that right, and I want to think we could and should be better than that.
In terms of sustainability I think if we focus on something we already know, it is clear that expansion does little to further that goal over practical timescales (but still tens of billions of years, and in the case of a red or white dwarf up to trillions of years), because what we know already in a nutshell is that mass is energy. It doesn't really matter what that mass is; whether it's oil, coal, hydrogen, helium it's all energy. If we can convert mass into energy with 100% efficiency; such as black holes do, there is no difference between controlling one solar system or a billion. The result is enough to meet all ours needs "forever" because mass is an astounding amount of energy. Unless ours and alien space ships run specifically on coal and oil, then yeah maybe civilisations need to spread everywhere and compete for resources. Civilisations greatest challenge is not finding and taking resources, it's fully exploiting the resources available to it. I think as the universe ages, expands (to the point at which interstellar travel becomes impossible) and cools this becomes more important than how far we spread, and is in fact vital. Say we colonise a planet around a red dwarf, by the time we run out of energy in that system we wouldn't be able to reach another solar system anyway due to the accelerating expansion of the universe. So what purpose is served by spreading all over the galaxy?
Actually, that's not what population trends are showing. The U.N estimates that the human population will rise to around 11 billion by the beginning of the next century before leveling off for a variety of reasons. It's a topic for another conversation but search for Hans Rosling talks to get more information. We won't keep multiplying forever, and sustainability is not only practical and realistic but logical and desirable. I think that would be true for any complex civilisation, though I could be wrong. Civilisations are just a complex structure and any that grow too large fracture or collapse, without exception.
Well I think outside of scientific endevour and exploration at the point where you reach sustainability and reasonable protection from extinction the incentive to expand and conquer dissipates.