Approaching women in the street or in shops

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Anduin why are you cheating on your boyfriend Wrathion? Stop pretending to be straight.

I actually am into auntie Jaina.

[Dwarfhamster]

My wife is constantly complaining to me about men coming up to her and acting as if she owes them her time.

It's not being approached that bothers her so much as the attitude of entitlement and the way they get shitty when she brushes them off. Like she's the one being rude.

This right here. My wife, my girlfriend, and my female friends/coworkers say the same thing.

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If you play with fire you're eventually gonna burn yourself.

You know you're advocating rape, right?

[Celista]

Cocky is a big gamble. Some women will like it and others will think you're conceited.

Playful and confident is generally a better approach.

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My wife is constantly complaining to me about men coming up to her and acting as if she owes them her time.

It's not being approached that bothers her so much as the attitude of entitlement and the way they get shitty when she brushes them off. Like she's the one being rude.

Yes. That sense of entitlement is pervasive. Feeling entitled to attention, or sex, or to tell a woman what you do and do not like about her physical appearance. Even when she did not ask, or you do not know her.

[Stelio Kontos]

Yes. That sense of entitlement is pervasive. Feeling entitled to attention, or sex, or to tell a woman what you do and do not like about her physical appearance.

I never got that. I've always been so oblivious even when a woman is obviously interested in me. I've had friends make fun of me on it. Just a few of my ex-gfs had to basically bonk me on the head and say they like me.

I can't understand the level of delusion a guy has to have to think every woman he talks to is interested in him, and that he's owed her attention and affection.

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Look, there's nothing wrong with approaching or chatting with women or whoever else at a store, at the gym, walking in the street. But, it's all about how you do it, what you say, and what your intent is. "Hey you're pretty" will get you minimal success.

Most practitioners of direct game, that I know, won't do that. They will never make direct compliments about their beauty, because they know girls hear that all the time. Instead they will make compliments about their style or will say something a bit more innocent, like you look cool, or you look nice, or you look interesting. I avoid saying that a woman is beautiful. Beautiful women know they are beautiful. Instead say something like "I like your hat, it gives you kind of a french look" or whatever. The more specific you are, the better.

[Stelio Kontos]

Most practitioners of direct game, that I know, won't do that. They will never make direct compliments about their beauty, because they know girls hear that all the time. Instead they will make compliments about their style or will say something a bit more innocent, like you look cool, or you look nice, or you look interesting. I avoid saying that a woman is beautiful. Beautiful women know they are beautiful. Instead say something like "I like your hat, it gives you kind of a french look" or whatever. The more specific you are, the better.

And then you neg them, right bruh?

[Celista]

Not really the same thing.

It is the exact same thing. You are not entitled to sex, period. And it isn't the 50s anymore--if she didn't have sex with you, it's because she didn't want to. Maybe you didn't try hard enough, or she remembered she has a boyfriend at home, or she suddenly realized you remind her of her brother. In any case, dust yourself off and try again.

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I never got that. I've always been so oblivious even when a woman is obviously interested in me. I've had friends make fun of me on it. Just a few of my ex-gfs had to basically bonk me on the head and say they like me.

I can't understand the level of delusion a guy has to have to think every woman he talks to is interested in him, and that he's owed her attention and affection.

Women have it too...not everyone obviously for either gender but still. I don't get it either. Massive egos.

I was a little bit like that when I was 16. Then I grew out of it.

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I personally find the best approach is the good ole cliche of 'Just be yourself'.

How do you know what your true self is? Are you the same person you were 10 years ago? 20 years ago? When I was in school, I was very shy and had low confidence. That changed a couple of years after I got out of school. I developed. Some of it happened just by the situations I was into, some of it was through work on my part. What is the true me? The shy me? Or the one that got over his shyness? When I started developing my social skills by talking to more people and going out more, being more open, was I just pretending that I was someone that I really wasn't?

"You" is a very fluid concept. You can be everything you want to be. There is nothing that's holding you back from being like the cocky, charming jock from school, that gets all the ladies, other than a mental barrier in your mind that you have to break down first. Once it's gone, there is no limit to who or what you can be.

This is sort of the key to learning to love one's self. Stop feeling guilty about the things you like. Once you break free from the chains of embarrassment, a whole new world will be available to you.

I don't. And I love women and sex. So do other PUAs, which is why they are having a lot of success with their direct approaches. Women can feel that you are for real when you are being direct and unapologetic about being interested in sex.

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That's actually not true. People with their earphones in just wanna listen to music. But when an actual human being approaches, they will gladly engage in a conversation. Music can wait. It's just there to pass the time.

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You haven't actually pointed out any concrete thing that is wrong with what PUAs are saying. Give me a line. Give me something PUAs say, and then explain, in coherent sentences, why it's wrong. There isn't a single person that has done this in this thread, because no one even knows what they are talking about.

That's....not what I meant at all. Headphones are distracting and make me nervous in public traffic, increasing chances of an accident and I don't want to be at fault if something happens.

[Stelio Kontos]

I don't. And I love women and sex. So do other PUAs, which is why they are having a lot of success with their direct approaches. Women can feel that you are for real when you are being direct and unapologetic about being interested in sex.

http://www.mmo-champion.com/threads/...-relationships
http://www.mmo-champion.com/threads/...-relationships
http://www.mmo-champion.com/threads/...d-a-girlfriend

Going over those OPs shows just how much of a playa you are, Casanova.

I'm sure you slay at the PUA game. You seem like exactly the type of guy those fools prey on.

[Blobfish]

I usually meet the ladies at my local bar
Depending on how good the intercourse is, then we sometimes go back to my or her place.

However, usually I book a cheap hotel/motel room or I grab a phone number.

I have actually been picked up by the ladies as well.. so it goes both ways.

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Especially if you are extremely motivated, because you think about sex all the time.

If its all about sex then why not hire professional escort who has boundaries and doesn't feel like you're a bothersome creep -or atleast wont tell you- when you come of strong?

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only reason guys approach girls is because they want sex, it's disgusting!

1) Not true, I love everything about a woman. I love talking to her, I love femininity, I love to feel that energy, I love getting close to them, touching them, kissing them, getting intimate, I just love everything about it. It's about more than just sex. Even when you're having sex, it's about more than just putting your penis inside of her. It's about feeling her closeness, her warmth, her soft skin. It's the most basic human desire, and totally normal.
2) Even if it was all about sex, that's totally normal. We're programmed that way.

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1) Not true, I love everything about a woman. I love talking to her, I love femininity, I love to feel that energy, I love getting close to them, touching them, kissing them, getting intimate, I just love everything about it. It's about more than just sex. Even when you're having sex, it's about more than just putting your penis inside of her. It's about feeling her closeness, her warmth, her soft skin. It's the most basic human desire, and totally normal.
2) Even if it was all about sex, that's totally normal. We're programmed that way.

Hahahahahaha, what a cop out.

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1) Not true, I love everything about a woman. I love talking to her, I love femininity, I love to feel that energy, I love getting close to them, touching them, kissing them, getting intimate, I just love everything about it. It's about more than just sex. Even when you're having sex, it's about more than just putting your penis inside of her. It's about feeling her closeness, her warmth, her soft skin. It's the most basic human desire, and totally normal.
2) Even if it was all about sex, that's totally normal. We're programmed that way.

creepy.......

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Depends were you do it tbh...if you do it in a bar or a club, it's expected behaviour, but out in daily life, at the grocery store or just on the street, it's just revolting, at least with an up-front proposal, like you're some hooker or something.

I'm not offering to pay them.

The more...'subtle' (or as subtle as a piranha can be) approach mostly just comes off as creepy, or if they manage to hide it long enough for the home-run, exploitative and deceptive as fuck.

So direct approach makes you feel like a hooker and indirect approach is creepy. So there is just no way to approach a girl in the day. Weird then that it actually works.

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I'm not offering to pay them.



So direct approach makes you feel like a hooker and indirect approach is creepy. So there is just no way to approach a girl in the day. Weird then that it actually works.

A broken clock is right twice a day.

[Lahis]

1) Not true, I love everything about a woman. I love talking to her, I love femininity, I love to feel that energy, I love getting close to them, touching them, kissing them, getting intimate, I just love everything about it. It's about more than just sex. Even when you're having sex, it's about more than just putting your penis inside of her. It's about feeling her closeness, her warmth, her soft skin. It's the most basic human desire, and totally normal.
2) Even if it was all about sex, that's totally normal. We're programmed that way.

The more I read your posts, there more they reinforce the creeper feel.

Keep tipping that fedora.

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I hope you don't give in to their desperation. I think I saw your picture in the pic thread and the fact you're young and from Eastern-Europe just makes it difficult to avoid those guys. You can only change yourself and where and with who you hang out, going to places where the quality of guys is better and youll be treated with a bit more respect.

I love how guys like you shit on people that actually have the guts to walk up to a woman in real life and say hi, yet people like you will validate a woman on an internet forum and tell her how cute and beautiful she is. You secretly want to have the balls to walk up to a woman in real life and do that, but you can't, because your fear of rejection is bigger than the fear of living to the rest of your days without actually having lived at all.

And the hilarity -or rather, sadness- of it is that they claim confidence but from my experience these slimes often do it when you're somewhat isolated, in the dark preferably.

That tells me they know DAMN WELL it's not appreciated behaviour.

There are several reasons why they do it.

The first is probably because they are still somewhat shy and don't want dozens of people to see how they approach a woman and maybe get rejected. Totally normal and you get over it.

Another reason is that it's always just better to approach a woman when she's alone, meaning not walking around with friends. It's easier to get a number from a single person being alone than from one walking around in a group. Her female friend might be jealous, you have to somehow entertain the whole group, if there are male friends in that group you need to approach them first, sometimes you never know if one of them is a boyfriend etc. There are just so many complications that I avoid approaching groups unless there's a girl I HAVE to talk to, or I'm out at night and try to be a bit more social with people in general. There aren't a lot of girls going to clubs alone. That's one of the big advantages of day game. Sometimes girls might need the approval of their friends or feel that they will come across as a slut if they give out their number to a guy that just approached them, when in reality they are actually attracted to the guy.

Then yet another reason might be, to make the girl actually feel more comfortable. Because maybe she doesn't like to give you her number if too many people are standing around and watching, she might feel embarrassed. I've had this problem with muslim girls. Yesterday I went to a party and after several minutes of talking and joking around with a muslim girl, I introduced myself and held out my hand. She declined because she wasn't allowed to touch men. Yeah, that is a thing. So imagine how they must feel giving out their number to a guy when maybe other muslim men are watching.

It's a complicated thing and approaching a girl that is alone and not occupied with anything is the perfect situation. One that won't happen as often as you'd like, so you have to grasp the chance when it's there.

Then again, I definitely wouldn't approach a woman in a dark alley.

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I love how guys like you shit on people that actually have the guts to walk up to a woman in real life and say hi, yet people like you will validate a woman on an internet forum and tell her how cute and beautiful she is. You secretly want to have the balls to walk up to a woman in real life and do that, but you can't, because your fear of rejection is bigger than the fear of living to the rest of your days without actually having lived at all.

I'm sure returning soldiers salute you when they hear how you bravely said hello to a woman.

You seem to think that everyone doesn't talk to the opposite sex and you and these internet retards are some sort of phenomenon.
You also see women as 2 dimensional. Its sad.