Alright boys, Levitt here for a 101 session on getting the ladies.
I will provide to you a list of common hindrances that stop you fellas from getting with the girls as well as a good solution to getting past them.
-I'm overweight - BE CONFIDENT
-I have bad acne - BE CONFIDENT
-I choke when I talk to girls - BE CONFIDENT
-I don't know what to talk about - BE CONFIDENT
-She's out of my league - BE CONFIDENT
-I don't smell good - For the love of god, take a shower. But BE CONFIDENT when you swag step out of that shower.
Okay, okay. Now, I'm sure you're all thinking "Great, another one of these threads. Saying "Be confident" is easy, but the actual confidence is much harder than just saying it."
To those who think that way, there's only two ways to gain this confidence:
-Experience. At some point, you're going to have to put all your chips on the table and approach the girl you've been not-so-discretely checking out all night. You will undoubtedly get rejected at some point - everyone does. There will come a time, however, when one girl responds positively to your attempts at being this guy. Once you get one that takes the bait, the next ones will come easier and easier. Why? Because you've had more experience (hopefully learning what to and not to say), and you'll be much more confident in your approach.
-Look in the mirror and ask yourself "Do I like how I look?". If you answer no, ask yourself "What do I not like about myself?". Then ask yourself "Is this something I can change?". If the answer is yes, CHANGE IT. If no, learn to IGNORE IT. I did this 2 years ago. I sat there and looked at myself in the mirror. I got a nice glance of a growing double chin, man boobs, and a mangled set of hair. While I was working on the lines to woo the ladies, they'd never see past my 5'10", 285lb exterior. Could I change these things? Without a doubt. I wanted to get with the ladies, and, like it or not, looks are the first impression. I took my ass to the gym, stopped eating fast food, pop, etc., and the weight just fell off. I found a good barber and got a fresh cut and managed to drop over a hundred pounds over the next 2 years.
That being said, there were things I could not change. Unfortunately, I sweat like it's the middle of July whenever I'm in the club. Is it pleasant? Of course not. Do ladies notice? Of course they do. Do I give 2 shits? Not at all. It used to bother me, but I can't do anything about it. It's completely out of my hands. If the girl I'm dancing with mentions it, I just nonchalantly say something alone the lines of "It's just part of the package deal, babe."
I've done it, and so can you.
And since people love comprehensive, concise lists; here's a list of things I recommend that you can do today to improve your game:
-Stop using bar soap! As much as ladies love the lovely scent of unscented Dove bar soap, you'll get a better response from a scented body gel such as Old Spice: After Hours - that's what I use.
-Get a quality cologne. Every guy needs one. Nothing overbearing or cheap (in this case, avoid the Axe / Old Spice brands. Those are cool if you're trying to impress a chick in high school at the roller rink, but if you're trying to attract a woman, you need to smell like a man - not a boy). There's plenty of room for expirimentation here, but I swear by Hanae Mori for men. It's got a solid musk, but nothing overbearing. When they get close, it makes them want to stay there.
-Dress nice. The graphic tee of Spider Man vol. 1 is great for relaxing around the house, but invest in at least a few quality button-ups, a couple pairs of NICE jeans, a nice pair of dress shoes, and a nice pair of tennis shoes / sneakers. Women notice how you dress second only to the physique of the man wearing the clothes. From my experience, they judge the shoes harder than anything else. If you've got to skimp on any of those areas, avoid the shoes.
(And don't be afraid to unbutton one (or two) more buttons than you'd generally have buttoned up. Experiment and see how it works for you.)
-Don't get ready before you need to. I know, you're excited. You've got the nice clothes, you smell nice, and you're ready to hit the town. But please, don't wake up at 10:30 AM, shower, and get dressed. First off, you're probably not going out until at least 6 or 7. Furthermore, the stains, wrinkles, and general deteriation of good scent that the events of the day-to-day bring about are all game-killers when it comes to talking to the ladies.
-This brings up another point - USE AN IRON. If you don't know how to, LEARN! Once mastered, it's a very easy way to bring your whole outfit up a couple notches.
-If you're wearing black, use a lint roller.
-Be confident; not cocky. Some may argue that "nice guys finish last" - and that's pretty much true. The nice guys don't ever get anywhere. Sorry. That being said, you don't have to be a complete prick to a woman just to get her attention. There's plenty of room for variance between "Hey beautiful, I knew from the first moment I laid eyes on you that we were meant to be together forever." and "b**** get your tiny a** over here." Be creative and find your niche.
-Have fun! That's the most important thing. All the clothing, cologne, and work is useless if you're not enjoying yourself. I really can't emphasize this enough. You only live once - so live it up!
Alright boys (and all you ladies who may be here to critique), I hope this post serves to get you mad game today, tomorrow, and forever! (And please don't ever say things like that in front of a woman. Just because she's wearing heels doesn't mean she won't sprint the hell away from you.)
Levitt