I'm Single + happy!

[barbarawood]

Sometimes we may feel that everybody around us is in a relationship. This can be tough particularly if you feel like there is pressure for you to be in a relationship. It may help to know that it is a great time to get to know yourself - which makes future relationships even better!

Everybody is different and this is reflected in what we want out of life. There are lots of good reasons why you may not want a relationship or feel as though you are not ready to have a relationship with a partner right now.

It's definitely OK to be single and there's nothing wrong with you!

There are also many good things about being single. Some of these may be:

Your decisions only affect you and do not involve a partner's wants or needs.
You can concentrate on doing things you enjoy.
You can spend time with your friends and meet new people to have good times with.
It gives you time to reflect on your choices.
If friends are hassling you because you are single it may be worth remembering the great things about being single and letting them know that being single is Ok.

Spend time with other single people. It may be a good time to try joining a sporting team to meet some new people. You can also take time out to concentrate on doing things you enjoy.

[Darsithis]

Move to off-topic

OT: I can't really agree more. Although I am no longer single, I was quite happy when I was. It afforded me time to build close relationships with my friends and make some new ones - and left me with a more lenient schedule to do the things I wanted to do.

[Flextt]

What is the point of this thread? Spreading the word to others? Reassuring of the OP himself?

On a sidenote: Went through a break-up in mid september after 6 years relationship. Hit me hard, obviously, but like you and the Darsithis said, once I got past the point, where I felt incredibly sad just by thinking of her, I noticed how I made my decision in dependence to her views and doing things without subconsciously worrying, what she might think and how that could affect us yada yada.
Still miss her in my life after 4 months, but that is more like a "*sigh* wouldnt it be nice"-train of thought, so it doesn't stir me up that much anymore like it used to.

[Mifuyne]

3 years single and not that happy about it :P

[rinleezwins]

You can do whatever you want, you don't depend on anybody and you don't have to act like someone you are not just to impress someone you like.

[Collegeguy]

Some very good points.

Your decisions only affect you and do not involve a partner's wants or needs.

The one thing that makes it hard in a relationship for me. You both my have different career paths that will take you different locations, or you can never make any real decisions without consulting the other. It gets very exhausting.

I never could find the real dream job and degree I wanted until I was single. Afterwards, find the right girl. My case anyway.

You can concentrate on doing things you enjoy.

I think this is the one thing the makes it hardest to find the right girl. Being in a loving relationship is wonderful, but alll of a sudden you wake up one morning and realize that you have to make two people happy. Before, it was always about doing the things that make you happy, so you can do the things you want to do. Now, it is about making two people happy, and that is rarely the things you want to do individually.

[vaajtswv]

On topic of being single.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=s6X0Qqxx3f0

[Deleted]

You can do whatever you want, you don't depend on anybody and you don't have to act like someone you are not just to impress someone you like.

I can actually say you are true !! I am single for like 5 years now and I don´t miss anything at all !! Of course if I see my friend with their boy/girlfriends I get jealous sometimes but you know it is not a big issue.

I have lots of friends, a great family so I can live without girlfriend. I don´t want to say that I would not want one but I am still looking for the right one

[Jackmoves]

Nothing wrong with being single but I can't really say I see much of an advantage to it.

You can do most things you want to do while in a relationship as well imo, granted you can't just run down and buy a InterRail pass and go for a trip across the continent that same afternoon but in general you can still do most things you want to do.

When you are in a relationship your perspective change slightly and your priorities change to suite that, but it doesn't mean your freedom is more limited, it's just that you value different things.

You got less responsibilties as single but you also gotta carry a heavier economic burden etc, no more shared bills etc.
It's a give or take, you lose some and win some. A good relationship will make you happy and whatever you might not be able to do because you are not single will be compensated by the fact that your partner is around wanting to see you happy prodiving you with love, laughs and support.

No one should frawn upon people who choose to be/or are single though, if your friends tries to pressure you into a releationship while knowing you are content at being single at the time they are fucked up, if they still do that tell them to S T F U and then they should, provided that they are proper friends respect and understand your standpoint.

[Anjerith]

I can understand your desire to justify your being single OP, but I think the great thing about being single is not having to force others to see why you have chosen a single lifestyle. Sort of seems like your attempting to justify your actions to yourself by writing this.

IF YOUR NOT then more power to you.

[Kissoon]

Kinda sounds like your trying to convince yourself.

[Grimbold21]

3 years single and not that happy about it :P

"Bitch..please" 5 year single.

[Deleted]

Six years single.

And i hate it.

[Big Law]

7 years single... im 28... i dont mind it but I would prefer to be in a relationship... but girls these days :O

I hook up with girls all the time or just go out on dates... I just havent been in a relationship in forever.

[Deleted]

I've been in a relationship for 7 years.

Pros: Sex on tap, someone to rely on at your darkest times, shared responsibility, having different interests opens you up to new things, sex on tap.
Cons: Really can't think of any.

Sorry OP, but you're actually missing out by being single.

[Clevername]

I was married for 3 years and have been single for 2, I absolutely love it, doubt I will ever be married again. The freedom is awesome, being as selfish as I want is great and dating women before they become 'comfortable' and let themselves go is nice.

I have married friends with kids who try and sell me on getting married and having kids but ironically in the next breath they're telling me how much they hate their lives and wish they were single again.

[Melpo]

I'm a bit of a hedonist, so this may not be suitable for women. If you take the context of all the blogs, maybe you'll forgive me for it, though - just a bit
Not that I really care if you are offended or not.

http://www.wocky.me/2011/12/30/a-bit...relationships/

and

http://www.wocky.me/2011/12/30/dating-one-o-one/

But, yup - I'm happy single or in a relationship. When I'm not happy, I just get out.

[MangoSpirit]

i am married for 5 years this september. and i am unhappy. all my freedom is gone. i cant get away. and the nagging. oh the nagging....

i envy you OP.

[skrump]

Oddly enough I must say the opposite, I want a relationship I am tired of sleeping with these little sluts 10 years younger than me that look at me as nothing more than A penis attached to feet.

I mean what the hell ever happened to women wanting companionship, these days by the time they even consider it a option they are so used and abused no decent man would touch them.

[Pull My Finger]

Well, I'm not single, haven't been for years, but one could say it was a lucky happenstance. I'm with a very special person and that's about the only person I'd care to be together with these days. If it wasn't for her, I would definitely be single and that by a clear choice. Last time I was single, it was fine.

I had other relationships and was even married once, but honestly, what people usually consider "normal" and functioning relationships, I simply don't need. Besides, when I look at the average female out there today ... there's no way I could stand tolerating a person like that around me, taking away from my time and annoying me with her ... personality.

Being single definitely is a very good option, if you're a self-reliant person and as long as you're not the type of person who needs acknowledgement of others to feel good about yourself.