Female players always asserting their sex in game

[Derpules]

EDIT: People of the world: Please dont turn this into a X sucks at playing Y thread.

Hello all. I don't know if its just me or not, but lately I've noticed in the games I play (WoW, bf3, minecraft) that a conversation will go on between players and the words 'he' or 'him' are used. Then there's a quick reply 'but I'm not a dude'. What's the point in saying that to a group of people?

I understand in the real world that some people dont like their genders mixed up, and I'm fine with that. But, in pixel land, when its nothing more then text flying around the chat bars (IE: not using mumble, teamspeak, vent, etc) why even point it out?

Is it a sense of pride? distinction? entitlement? preying on the foreveralones? It just makes no sense to me. And the 2 times Ive ever asked 'her' what the importance of correcting us was, 'she' would start throwing a fit and leave the dungeon/server.

I are confuz.

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Women want to feel special for being a girl, guys hate being announced with ''her'' out of fear of their manhood

[Caiada]

Some would just rather you be correct. (There's lots of perfectly reasonable explanations for this, so don't make too many assumptions.)

Others want to be different. Tends to be teenagers.

And yeah, a lot of them probably want attention from boys.

[Derpules]

Everything said above this post makes sense, It just seems like lately its happening more frequently then I remember it in years past. More females playing games, or maybe they are just more assertive then before? I dunno.

[PhearMark]

Maybe they don't like being called him repeatedly? If you use the player's name or gender indifferent words it's not an issue either. On the flip side, what's the point in assuming everyone in your group is male? There are real people behind the characters. Some people hold the distinction between characters and players more strongly than others and they are probably the ones that don't want you to confuse the gender of their character with the gender of the player. Either way this is something ridiculous to be upset about.

[Dhurn]

Some may want attention or disctinction sure, but I have to say if someone in a group referred to me as "she" or "her" I would probably say I'm a guy. Not that this ever happens because the general assumption is that any given gamer is usually going to be male, but I can certainly understand not wanting others to refer to you as something you aren't.

[pocky_rin]

I don't bring it up unless it's relevant to the conversation, ie, some kind of discussion where a female opinion would be quite different (on forums) online I never correct people outside of my guild, pugs w/e I never say it, unless it's some kind of nice late night group where we do like 5-6 dungeons together and start talking about ourselves. Usually pugs these days are just silent and I'm fine with that. If someone calls me he or dude or whatever in the game I just go along with it, it's kinda funny to me when they talk about the boobs on an actress and I'm just like, "yeah man, totally 8/10 hottie" Recruits sometimes seem a little shocked after I get them into the guild and they hear me on ts, they just assume I'm a dude since I never correct them. I feel like more of a dude anyway in my guild lol.

Edit- I'd just like to point out there's no real way of knowing if the girls who don't correct you outweigh the girls who do, since they are the ones acting like blokes. All of your dungeons could be filled with them, but unfortunately the loud annoying ones are all people remember.

[Caiada]

Everything said above this post makes sense, It just seems like lately its happening more frequently then I remember it in years past. More females playing games, or maybe they are just more assertive then before? I dunno.

Probably the former. More guys being involved in it will naturally get more girls, along with 'role models' like Felicia Day and Olivia Munn. Proliferation of the Internet too.

[caninepawprints]

When I refer to a female character as "her" or "she" in conversation, I get corrected every time if the player is a male. He wants me to be gender-correct for what he is in real life, not for what his toon is (as if I'm going to know the player's gender before they tell me).

So no, it's not just women. It's men, too.

[Jackmoves]

I don't know it's probably something that comes automaticly I don't think they put much thought into it tbh, it's not like they gain anything from it, at least not in my guild, we got about 7-8 girls/women that play regularly, most of them play a lot more then me to be frank.

So, the question is, would you correct someone if they called you a girl? I'm pretty sure I would.
I do think there are some girls who will do it to seek attention, it's the internet afterall... but I personally don't really pay them more attention then a bloke and I treat them like any other player I encounter.

[pocky_rin]

Probably the former. More guys being involved in it will naturally get more girls, along with 'role models' like Felicia Day and Olivia Munn. Proliferation of the Internet too.

Oh jesus role models :/ I don't have any female role models gurl gamers, i like games, that's it. Raider first, girl like distant 20th. You didn't start playing wow because you watched Athene vids and looked up to him I'm guessing.

[Listrata]

I tend to not care what I'm called until I'm hanging out with people more often. And usually my gender is exposed when I tell them my real name or when I hop on vent/mumble. I would only correct them if they still continue to think I'm a dude, but thankfully that doesn't happen. I'm sure in most cases (like its been said) they would just rather you be right and not be disingenuous.

[Ascend]

Maybe they don't like being called him repeatedly? If you use the player's name or gender indifferent words it's not an issue either. On the flip side, what's the point in assuming everyone in your group is male? There are real people behind the characters. Some people hold the distinction between characters and players more strongly than others and they are probably the ones that don't want you to confuse the gender of their character with the gender of the player. Either way this is something ridiculous to be upset about.

Hold on, give me 10 minutes to learn everyone's gender and be able to match it to their name in mid-conversation-flow.

[Keh]

I refer to my own chars as the sex they are oddly but other players by their own sex irl.

I get angry when people call certain dragons he/him too and I dont even enjoy the wow lore..

Hold on, give me 10 minutes to learn everyone's gender and be able to match it to their name in mid-conversation-flow.

You'll likely find most close guilds where people play consistantly together have a community / family feel where you will likely refer to people by name irl more than character at least from my experience and via talking on comms. Generally people who guild hop/change all the time wont get/understand this. Real ID also promotes this I feel by displaying real names.

[Ihnasir]

I correct some when I'm running groups with women, just because I'd prefer everyone be correct.

[kynthrus]

I am a male, I prefer to be addressed as such. If I were a girl I would probably prefer to be addressed as such. It's that simple.

[Very Tired]

Personally, I always see subjects like this based off a person own observations are always false. Ex. Has the drop rate on Al'ar gone up? I see more and more people around Stormwind with it. Or every X class is see always destroys me, they need to be nerfed. Or is this generation full of snobby kids? All I see these days are stuck up teenagers.

Any of these could be true or false, but you need more evidence to suggest it then just what you yourself see.

[Derpules]

When I refer to a female character as "her" or "she" in conversation, I get corrected every time if the player is a male. He wants me to be gender-correct for what he is in real life, not for what his toon is (as if I'm going to know the player's gender before they tell me).

So no, it's not just women. It's men, too.

That's fair, and Ive seen it myself. Though, to join a pug and say 'hey guys' and then get the ' Im a girl!' and then 'Thats my wife!' just seems a bit much to me

[Beasty]

This is what happens when women make themselves known on the internet:



And a lot of women (not all no) freakin love attention and a lot of men are all too happy to provide their white knight services.

[Volitar]

Some people just don't like being called the opposite sex. If someone ever called me her or she I would tell them I'm a guy.

Don't get me wrong there are tons of drama queen girls who want nothing more than everyone to give 100% of there attention to them.