Originally Posted by
Poundmax
Hey All,
So here's the situation. I'm 25 and I've been working at my current Job since Jan '06, I had left my previous job of 3 years (yes, I entered the work force young) to come to my current job via a former co-worker & friend (though I didn't know him before working with him) had referred me. A lot has changed in 6 years, I've worked overnight weekend shifts pretty much on a constant basis week in and week out, I met my wife and got married after switching to days, though still working 12 hour shifts 3-4 days a week and among other things, for that reason I have been casually searching for a different job for a couple months now. I've had a couple interviews and though it seemed promising at first, nothing really has panned out so far. I don't have a degree but I am working towards one even though my time really has been monopolized by my work since on the days that I do work, I'm either at work or sleeping.
In the last year or so since the most recent round of layoffs (I've survived 3 rounds), this place has become really hell-bent on their policies and procedures. Essentially, this place has just about the strictest "3 strikes" type of rule you can imagine. In the span of 3 months you can't get 3 strikes. For strike one I was late due to horrible winter road conditions even though I left early and called while driving to let work know what was going on. Strike 2 I was literally ONE minute late another day, and strike 3 happened at the end of last week as I called in sick and even though I brought in a very detailed (2 page) doctors note, I will be getting randomly pulled this week to talk to HR and "discuss my job" here. It clearly states in the policies and procedures that at this point, I will be up for termination and for working here for 6 years. believe me, I've seen it (and far crazier things) happen.
So basically, my situation is this...I know I'm going to be on my way out of here and my wife is aware of that as well. After being unhappy with my job for years, yet sticking it out anyway for the hopes of something better (there was a job posting a year ago for a position/promotion very ideal for me but they withdrew it because of a round of layoffs had just occurred and this position was no longer deemed necessary), I really, REALLY, don't want to have my job get the last laugh. I don't want to do anything immature or something that would put me at risk for getting sued (also something I've seen someone do) but I'm really looking for advice as to what I should do here and how I can leave in a way that doesn't make me or my resume look bad and that my wife can be ultimately ok with as well. I was thinking of telling my wife something along the lines of "I overheard my management talking about letting me go at the end of the week, so I just wanted to leave on my terms, etc." but I've never really thought I would be in this position before.
As a final note, let me also add that I am not concerned with finding a new job, I know the economy sucks, etc...but I have plenty of friends and family to look to for any job connections and as far as my wife goes, I'm willing to use my dad's lawn mower and start cutting peoples grass (a summer job I used to have) here and there for any extra cash I can possibly earn.
TL;DR version...I'm losing my job soon, but I don't want to give them the satisfaction. Can I quit in a way that wont piss my wife off?