Girlfriend broke up, the hard way

[Ragashii]

Can't post links because I usually just lurk but if someone could put it back together, it'd make the OP happy. h t t p : / /www . youtube . c o m/watch?feature=player_embedded&v=bjzUTZNd-PM

[Deleted]

Friends who screw you over like that aren't friends. They are manipulators, most of the time thinking they work the world. More often than not, they usually end up getting what's coming to them. From what I can see; you really enjoyed this girl, well man, love is harsh at times, but you just have to keep trucking through. Something that has really stuck with me and helped me get through hard times is this very quote: "Life is like an amusement park ride, the Roller Coasters trick your mind into thinking it's in danger, I.E. the uneasy feeling that comes with them. However, you just have to remember, it's only a ride and you can change that ride whenever you want to, because you're the one in control."

To me, that quote says, you're still in control and you can live your life however you want, there will be ups and downs, there will be sadness that is a guaranteed feeling. But once you realize that life is only a ride, is when you can truly start to enjoy it. Girls will come and go; as will friends, but truly only you can give yourself the happiness you desire. If you want to resort to violence and "smash his nose in", then you can, but just prepared to ride that choice. I can tell you; I've been in the same situation, I hated my friend so much, so I decided to just leave them both behind, want to know what happened to them? The manipulators? They ended up in prison with a 35+ year sentence for armed robbery and first degree murder.
Life has a funny way of working; and I would forget them, move on and find a girl that wouldn't trade you for the world, that is when you really start to experience real happiness.

I hope I've helped, enjoy the ride.

You sir, have a good point. Thanks a lot.
He is really manupulativ. He thinks he is some "uber person" with an excellent IQ because he "trolls" people and "hates humanity". He means this serious. That's why my girlfriend wanted to help him out of his "depression".

I really really enjoyed the time with her.. I red trough the logs.. looked at pictures of us.. somehow I want her back but it was such a betrayal...

[zgollum]

you'll go through all the stages until you accept that it's over. i'm sorry man, but it would be best to forget about her the sooner the better.

[Farolok]

Also, post nude pics

[Deleted]

Two questions:

How long were you together?

Is she hot?

on 28. it would have been a year.

you decide.

for reference me:

Also, post nude pics

okay I don't think you were serious

[Kalmakk]

You sir, have a good point. Thanks a lot.
He is really manupulativ. He thinks he is some "uber person" with an excellent IQ because he "trolls" people and "hates humanity". He means this serious. That's why my girlfriend wanted to help him out of his "depression".

I really really enjoyed the time with her.. I red trough the logs.. looked at pictures of us.. somehow I want her back but it was such a betrayal...

Like I said in my response for ya, I've been there man. Your story right down to the personality of the people involved is eerily similar to the one I described in my post last page. Don't worry mate you'll survive. I know from personal experience that this will be just about impossible to swallow right now... but PLEASE do your best to move on. Please don't beat yourself up even more by trying to get her back.

[Da Baws]

You already lost him as a friend, knock his fucking teeth out for getting with your girl. If he was really your friend, he wouldn't have gotten with her. As for her, don't try to get her back. And if he comes back to you, slam the door in her face.

That's some cold-blooded shit that happened to you.

[Flappy]

Be a real sweet guy, act like it's not a big deal. Gradually show her why she chose you, go out of your way to show that you are mature and you're over it. Some women can't stand seeing somebody do well after a serious relationship, and if you act like it doesn't affect you when it does it's going to bother her. Get a not so serious girlfriend- Basically somebody that you're going to use.

She's going to be jealous and upset that you got back onto your feet so quickly, a woman thinking she's second best irritates them more than a case of the herpes. Continue being that sweet guy, don't smother their relationship, just "help" them. Eventually she's going to start yearning for you again, and seize that opportunity when she does. Invite her over to your house for something that you don't need help with aka "studying for a final" or some such nonsense. She'll know why she's actually going over there.

Set up a camera recording the 2 of you doing the nasty (don't include anything pornographic as you can go to jail for that). Save the used condom. Make a batch of brownies and set up a "movie night". Pour the contents of your used condom into the brownies, filming this as well. Pick out a movie everyone really wants to see like the Avengers and edit your romance scene into it, and the brownie making scene right after. Right before your edit comes into the movie break out the brownies and sit back and take in the sweet sweet revenge.

That's just what I would do.

[TEHPALLYTANK]

I'd suggest keeping busy for a while, make sure you don't let yourself fall into depression over it. Keep this in mind you will be alright do not forget that, do not let yourself fall into self-pity and wallow in grief. Take the appropriate time to mourn the situation then allow yourself to move past it. I can say from experience that it is much easier to sink into depression than to use saddening situations to grow as a person.

It may be difficult, but you will be okay.

[Deleted]

no person is worth enough to make an idiot out of urself.

Be happy shes gone, might sounds stupid but in the long run ull be happy and find someone who treats u the way u wanna be treated, and a girl who loves the way u are.

Plus Karma is a bitch....... i had a Girlfriend for 4 years and she broke up with me out of no where, today she has 2 kids from the guy she left me for, and he is gone for another girl hahahahaha.

[Farolok]

Damn she is hot dude, congrats on that one. Commiserations for the shitty way it ended.

[Toothy]

Revenge won't solve anything, it will only leave things even more bitter and give the wrong impression to others.

I suggest just avoiding them completely. A friend willing to purposely engage with your girlfriend, isn't much of a friend. It is a sign of lack of respect on his part and hers as well.

He isn't worth the time, and if it really bothered him he would have came to you and told you. He didn't and hid it behind your back. Ditch him, he will betray you again.

As for your ex. She lied to you only to comfort your concerns and broke your trust. She will likely do it again and if she really cared, she would have never continued dating your friend if it was hurting you.

There are plenty of women out there, so see this as an opportunity to go out and meet some new friends. It will take some time to move on, give yourself a good 1-2 months, if needed. But don't continue contacting since it will only prolong the situation. Who knows, maybe it won't work out for them and she will want you back, of course why would you want someone like that? Walk away and get back out there.

[Needalight]

I am always sympathetic with these situations, because this has happened to me in the past.

Things to keep in mind; Be social while you are going through this break up. Meet friends, especially girls. More than likely, you guys will not get back together. If you are alone, you will just cry and probably think of stupid things you could do. Have you ever heard of "The more you think of her naked, the less likely you will get over her." So that being said, don't think of her naked, at the same time, accept that she is probably fucking him. (not trolling) Don't deny anything. Meet friends, go out to clubs, etc etc. Give it two or three months.


edit; she is pretty good looking, its gonna be tough to get over her naked. xD

[Whereswaldo333]

The same thing happened to me. Recently too. I tried to forgive them both and make the best of thing but its really hard. What you need to do is find someone, ((preferably an older person whos been around) I used my weed dealer whom of which is a pretty cool guy) and tell them everything. How you feel, what you feel like doing and what you are going to do. Keeping your emotions bottled up inside is mentally stressful, which will lead to distractions, i.e. low grades and possible loss of job.

Now you also mentioned that you would like her back. If you take her back or not is completely up to you but you should know this one thing. If you cannot forgive her for what she did then no one has any right to blame you. If you can forgive her, if you can completely overlook everything that happened, then you deserve so much more.

We have all been through hardships in our life. It is what forges us into the men that we are meant to be. A broken heart however is nothing to be scoffed at, and a guy will go great measures to overcome it. But remember that this is going to be one of many. All love ends tragically, but you will look back upon your memories and be so thankful that you have them. They hurt now, yes. But once the pain goes away you will know that for a time you enjoyed life. Then you will be happy once again.

[Deleted]

Like I said in my response for ya, I've been there man. Your story right down to the personality of the people involved is eerily similar to the one I described in my post last page. Don't worry mate you'll survive. I know from personal experience that this will be just about impossible to swallow right now... but PLEASE do your best to move on. Please don't beat yourself up even more by trying to get her back.

Thanks for your post too..
I really had a short thought of happyness after I read your
"As soon as I accepted that I wasn't getting that part of my previous life back again, I found my current partner, who is the most wonderful and crucial part of my whole life"

[Against the Modern World]

Has the "she broke my heart, I broke her nose" picture been linked yet?

if not, then here it is: http://www.motivationals.org/demotiv...ster-14932.jpg

[ThatCanadianGuy]

Sounds like high school to me. It happens, life goes on. Just keep living.

[Kalmakk]

Be a real sweet guy, act like it's not a big deal. Gradually show her why she chose you, go out of your way to show that you are mature and you're over it. Some women can't stand seeing somebody do well after a serious relationship, and if you act like it doesn't affect you when it does it's going to bother her. Get a not so serious girlfriend- Basically somebody that you're going to use.

She's going to be jealous and upset that you got back onto your feet so quickly, a woman thinking she's second best irritates them more than a case of the herpes. Continue being that sweet guy, don't smother their relationship, just "help" them. Eventually she's going to start yearning for you again, and seize that opportunity when she does. Invite her over to your house for something that you don't need help with aka "studying for a final" or some such nonsense. She'll know why she's actually going over there.

Set up a camera recording the 2 of you doing the nasty (don't include anything pornographic as you can go to jail for that). Save the used condom. Make a batch of brownies and set up a "movie night". Pour the contents of your used condom into the brownies, filming this as well. Pick out a movie everyone really wants to see like the Avengers and edit your romance scene into it, and the brownie making scene right after. Right before your edit comes into the movie break out the brownies and sit back and take in the sweet sweet revenge.

That's just what I would do.

That would all be sound advice if HE were the one who'd done something wrong. The OP hasn't. Frankly, from the way he writes and presents the situation in this thread he seems like a good genuine guy. It's a cliché thing to say but OP deserves better. It's worse to chase something that's so obviously broken, than it is to move on and find something new in life.

[Deleted]

Closing this thread. Some decent advice has been given, but there are too many responses of posters recommending violence or committing assault as a solution to dealing with a relationship problem. This kind of response is not appropriate on these forums. It is not constructive and, if taken seriously, is encouraging someone to break the law.

Posts encouraging violence are not welcome on this site.