Why do I not get girls?

[Deleted]

Hey mmo champ!

Ok so I have a problem, after another night out and coming home alone yet again even though all of my buddies have pulled, so give me some advice!

So here's the deal.

I'm a 22 y/o guy, who is very athletic as in body wise. I look after myself and love a good laugh.i have my own place which I stay by myself, and I very good job.

I constantly get complimented on how well I dress or how good I look, although personally I don't think I am good looking or anything like that. I'm a very social guy when it comes to people I know, however if I don't know someone I'm usually very shy at first.

So now that's out the way let me get to the point:

When I'm on a night out with friends I NEVER have any luck with girls. EVER. However all my friends do, even though whenever I'm anywhere but a club girls will always be staring at me and smiling!

I don't understand, I'm not one of those guys who thinks he is awsome. And a total stud. Infact quite the opposite. Very rarely will I try something on with girls. ( I'm not a virgin or anything btw, but put it this way I've seen me go like 1.5 years before I've had any action.and even contemplated escorts. As a young guy I dunno if that's right :S )

What's my problem? Do girls possibly find me intimidating ? I dunno :S I'm seriously confused here!

I don't go up to many girls either as I don't want to come across as a "sleazy" guy. And no I'm not afraid of knock backs at all in any way shape nor form.

So yeah. Help?

TLDR: why do I not get girls.

[Wynnyelle]

Typically, girls want guys to make the first move. So if you say that you're shy when meeting new people or that you don't try anything with girls, then it's going to be harder when you're in a club-type place to get girls. Show some confidence! Girls obviously find you attractive, so there shouldn't be anything to feel shy about. Just start talking and break the ice with some girls who show interest in you.

[Sinner563]

I don't understand, I'm not one of those guys who thinks he is awsome. And a total stud. Infact quite the opposite. Very rarely will I try something on with girls.

Pack it up folks, we're done here.


Look, I'm not going to perpetuate any stereotypes...but your buddies? They ARE trying something with the girls. And the girls they're picking up? They like it.

[Deleted]

They can smell your desperation.

[mini98]

TLDR: why do I not get girls.

Today's society expect men to coerce the woman...basically make the moves. Your trying to make the women pull the moves and to me, if that's true, would appear arrogant because of this unusual stance. But that might be just me.

For proof look to my sig bro

P.S. Coerce was wrong, meant persuade.

[Evil Inside]

Show some confidence and make a move.

[Shmiles]

They can smell your desperation.

Get out of the thread, you're contributing nothing.

I'm in a similar position as OP. I'm terrible at meeting girls in clubs, but places where you can actually talk, I feel much more at home. It's all about confidence bro.

[Deleted]

They can smell your desperation.

But thing is I'm not desperate.

I don't go out LOOKING for girls at all, yet my buddies do and will be all over girls like a rash! Is that attractive :S to me it isn't!

Also I have probably more girl friends than guy friends who have mostly said at one stage or another that they would love to date a guy like me..... Yet they choose not to?

I really don't understand. Oh and before anyone asks, no I'm not one of those clingy kinda guys.

[mini98]

But thing is I'm not desperate.

I don't go out LOOKING for girls at all, yet my buddies do and will be all over girls like a rash! Is that attractive :S to me it isn't!

Also I have probably more girl friends than guy friends who have mostly said at one stage or another that they would love to date a guy like me..... Yet they choose not to?

I really don't understand. Oh and before anyone asks, no I'm not one of those clingy kinda guys.

Ok you obviously have a stereotype with guys who pull the moves on women...so I'll put it this way...Women like men who put some effort in, standing around watching them smile at you is not effort, walk over there and talk and there's your effort.

P.S. Did have a better way to phrase it but I forgot while typing, GAH! One of those days.

[PatB]

lol desperate virgin

Infracted

[maaike]

Man, are you seriously looking for an answer? cause we can't give you one without actually seeing your behaviour. I would suggest to ask one of your friends, whether it be male or female. On this forum, since we don't know you, you'll only get stereotypes as an answer that won't help you

[Fojos]

But thing is I'm not desperate.

I don't go out LOOKING for girls at all, yet my buddies do and will be all over girls like a rash! Is that attractive :S to me it isn't!

Also I have probably more girl friends than guy friends who have mostly said at one stage or another that they would love to date a guy like me..... Yet they choose not to?

I really don't understand. Oh and before anyone asks, no I'm not one of those clingy kinda guys.

Those guys get the girls because they try. Girls are taught to expect the guy to come to them, not the other way around. You'll have to deal with that, if you want results.

The only way to get girls without trying as a guy is by being famous or very rich (you get some once in a while with looks, but women who go after what they want when it comes to this area are rare).

[anveena]

So go talk to the women you're interested in.

[Rusken]

Confidence is the most attractive trait some people can see in you, you can't just expect your looks to get you everywhere.

[bals]

I don't understand, I'm not one of those guys who thinks he is awsome. And a total stud. Infact quite the opposite. Very rarely will I try something on with girls.

I don't go up to many girls either

you summed up your problems right there.
women want you to take the initiative.

[Deleted]

lol desperate virgin

Oh im sorry did your parents ever tell you that you were adopted?

If you can't contribute, piss off.

To others thanks so far.

[Deleted]

They can smell your fear!
In all seriousness charisma wit and confidence will carry you a long way with girl's.

[Evil Inside]

Like said before, get out there and give it an old-fashioned try, just act confident and you'll get the girls. Trust me, you're in a much better situation than me and girls should be all over you.

[strossus001]

From what I can tell here, your personality is trash.

Your good qualities aren't enough to distract from the bad ones.

[Nest]

Have more self-confidence, it's the key!