Originally Posted by
Christan
i never said slandered, and perhaps berated is to harsh of a word, you did however respond aggressively when i gave MY opinion, of which you opened a thread about
also i did admit i had misconstrued your "not wanting children" a miscommunication there.
just because my opinions do not coincide with yours(and many others it seems) does not invalidate them.
@the apathetic / not caring part, you said that yourself. also anyones opinions who have varied from your own, you pretend don't matter at all, it seems that your mindset is "only my opinion matters" which is a part of the not caring / apathetic mindset. (complete indifference to others feelings, as evidenced to your replies here, and what you said to your parents, not caring about their opinions either, they raised you and you stomped on their hopes of having grandkids)
@who's hopes have you crushed? telling your parents flat out NO, instead of perhaps giving them hope that when their daughter grows up they can have grandkids.
also not caring about your parents feelings on the matter (you could approach the matter with them very differently)
if you do not want to have children, then don't, don't want to adopt, then don't..
what i have been saying isn't "go do this" it is...
make your parents feel better by telling them "when it is the right time / find the right man / may eventually adopt"
in the end you will do what you want... but please don't treat your parents that way.
give them some hope.
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i'm just not sure if i am being clear enough or even getting through...
even if in your own heart you decide to never deal with having/adopting children....
don't tell your family that...trust me it hurts to know your genetic line is going to end with your only child, it is better to...
give a little white lie to make them feel better...
sigh... i hope you understand what i am trying to get across...