Originally Posted by
Torq
You realize you're preaching to the choir, right? I've been pretty badly burned by almost all of my past relationships; and yet that hasn't stopped me from eventually coming to terms with it, putting it away, and moving on. Hell, the most recent of them still affects me, somewhat, but I refuse to let that taint my current relationship.
Every one of my relationships (save the only one that didn't really burn me) lasted well over a year. I've been cheated on, dumped for a friend, you name it. And yet I came to terms with those, realized that no, not every woman is a selfish, heartless bitch, and moved on.
Judging by your ages, I've probably been burned far more times (and far worse) than you have; the difference is, I'm not still hung up on it. So please. Don't pull the "you don't know what I went through QQ" card. It just makes you look pathetic.
Yeah, it's hard. Yeah, it causes a lot of permanent changes to your outlook on relationships. But really, all it takes is realizing that no two people are the same; and how much it affects you is entirely under your control.
The rest is just discipline, and realizing that, yeah, you'll never have that person back, but that doesn't mean you won't get to enjoy those feelings again, with someone else. If you're still hurting over something that happened 5 years ago, you haven't moved on, and that's no one's fault but your own. You're the only one holding yourself back, by that point.