My cat hates everyone (but me)

[HAcoreRD]

So, 3 months ago my brother brought home a stray cat that was hanging around his work for a month. It is declawed, but was a friendly cat (then).

We bring him home, he was house trained, he hated me and my mother, but soon after he changed his opinion on me, and now is exceptionally friendly to me.


He hisses at my mother and just pisses her off. As a result she's more than happy to let him outside in a hope he'll get lost, or worse (we have Racoons and Coyotes in the surrounding woods, plus a busy street in front of us).

My brother also began disliking the cat due to it hissing at him, and usually chases it around the house (no wonder it hates him).

My question is: how can I help get the cat to like them, before it ends us stray again or worse.

[agathangalos]

Cat's are very strange creatures...they're nothing like dogs in my experience, you cant get them to like you by pettying them and feeding them. Case in point, we have several cats that live outside (its a farm and we've always had anywhere from ~5 to ~20+ cats around it as long as anyone can remember) and we've kept them fed from the day they were born...but they hate us. The moment they see us they run for the hills like we're going to rip out their hearts, unless you have food. If we have food they'll practically eat it from our hands...but otherwise no.

My theory is that cats are complete fucking assholes, and 'nice' cats are just smart enough to know not to bite the hand that feeds them, but they're still assholes. What you have is an asshole cat who is fucking stupid, my friend.

[Deleted]

Cross your fingers. It's a cat. Sure, they are the cutest things ever, but if you want an animal you can raise/educate, get a parrot or a dog.

If you ask me, quality pet>low maintenance pet.

I'll never understand why people prefer cats over ANY other pet or why are they so popular, besides being a low maintenance pet. And even like that, a parrot is even more low maintenance besides you know, spending time with it because that's why you got it.

[Deleted]

Cat's are very strange creatures...they're nothing like dogs in my experience, you cant get them to like you by pettying them and feeding them. Case in point, we have several cats that live outside (its a farm and we've always had anywhere from ~5 to ~20+ cats around it as long as anyone can remember) and we've kept them fed from the day they were born...but they hate us. The moment they see us they run for the hills like we're going to rip out their hearts, unless you have food. If we have food they'll practically eat it from our hands...but otherwise no.

My theory is that cats are complete fucking assholes, and 'nice' cats are just smart enough to know not to bite the hand that feeds them, but they're still assholes. What you have is an asshole cat who is fucking stupid, my friend.

Now it all makes sense...

[Deleted]

When your mother or your brother try to get near him, put your cat on your lap or just hold him up and let them pet him, or start petting him and tell your brother and mother to get close really slowly and let the cat smell their fingers first, yes let him smell the fingers and hand, that's how they know if you're friendly or not, atleast that's how the cat let's you pet him later.

It's a slow process really. I have a cat that I got from the street and it took me 3 years until I could pet her without her being on her bed, and I still can't pick her up like I can with the others.

[otro]

My theory is that cats are complete fucking assholes

This man speaks the truth

[StayTuned]

I saved my cat from death 3 months ago. She fall asleep as a baby kitten in front of my door and I took care of her (I guess he came from the forrest behind my house). She was so weak that she was barely able to stand up.

Today she loves me. I guess she must be a bit older than 3 months now and she follows me like a dog. I walk around, shes always by my side. I go to sleep, she sleeps next to my bed. Shes friendly to every body else as well.

All I did is spending time with her. I played with her every day almost 2 hours. I fed her every day and I simply tried to be around her as much as I can. Shes now a very friendly little kitten and would never dare to attack or even hiss at anybody (I guess as long as you are not rude to her, but wtf why would you be rude to a kitten...???)

So my advice would be: just be nice to her. Tell your brother to stop chasing her around the house. Give the cat some time to get used to you and the others. Just be in the same room as the cat. Do not try to touch her. Just make her become used to your / some others presence.

[HAcoreRD]

thanks for the advice, guys.

[Jackmoves]

Lots of attention, when your cat wants it mind you, sometimes they don't want anything to do with humans and thats when you leave them alone, they will come to you when they want to cuddle, thats how me and my gfs cats are like at least. They can be very attached to humans, our cats will follow us around everywhere, my gf is a wuss so she got a real trouble with that since she don't want to scare them, I just shout at them and chase them a bit if they are following me, we don't want them to follow us too far from home.

[Deleted]

From experience with our stray cat, you just need to leave it alone, so to speak. If you keep bothering it while it sleeps it will get pretty irritated with you over time, but if its bored it will seek you out on its own.
Bribing it wish food also work though.

[Svifnymr]

My cat is friendly to me, and terrified of other people. Once he gets used to someone, he'll slink over to see who they are, but if they're loud or try to go find him to pay attention to him, he gets scared and hisses. My niece is terrified of him because she says he hates her, but it's the way she acts around him. Most likely it's the same with your mother, she acts like the cat is going to be mean, and the cat reacts to that.

[Deleted]

I've never read such shit in my life

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[Gothicshark]

I have a cat

Welcome to the world of cats.

1. Cats don't like or trust humans, unless you are the special person they trust.
2. Cats make their own rules and hours, don't expect them to do what you want.
3. Cats share their love unconditionally to people they trust.
4. All cat rules subject to change.

Learn these rules, and keep your cat and family separate everyone will be happier.

[a little Kappa]

Cats are odd creatures. My cat loves me and my parents, but when I got friends over he avoids them but does not hiss or attack. If someone other than me/my parents tries to pick him up or pet him he will attack though.

[Kivana]

Our brother and sister 2 year old cats HATE anyone except me and mum. If a friend comes over those two run for the hills like you set their arses on fire.
However we also have 3 kittens from the same family as the eldest 2 and they will rub round, jump up and want fuss from ANYONE in our house.

We have treated all 5 cats the same, played with them, given fuss etc but their personalities are miles apart. Cats are cats and do what the fuck THEY want.

Given enough time and with your family not pissing the cat off, he might come around. However cats can be fussly little fuckers

[Deleted]

One of my family's cats are like that too. Except he hates everyone and everything pretty much. Especially other cats. He's been that way since we got him as a kitten 7 years ago. And before anyone has the chance to accuse me and my family of treating him bad, 2 of our other cats are extremely social, and are always around if you are doing something in the garden etc. Then our fourth and final cat is a bit in the middle, not the most social, but he doesn't despise other cats or humans.

TL;DR Cats have their personality's just like humans, you can't really change that.

[smelltheglove]

you could have her feed it. it's not an immediate thing, but cats arent stupid. at the least the cat will most likely at least tolerate her. also if she completely ignores the cat (outside of feeding) it might come around. cats hate being ignored. but nothing may work, cats can be incredibly individualistic

[Slummish]

The cat will never like your brother. It only takes one frantic chase around the house for the cat to write him off completely... forever. Your mother might have a shot. She should try rubbing Fancy Feast Ocean Whitefish Dinner behind her ears.

[Purlina]

Cat's are like women, sometimes it's just impossible to understand them or why they are upset with you.


>.<

[KDSwain]

Also depends on the breed. We have a Maine Coon and they are notorious for this behavior. He is very affectionate and loving to my wife and I but woe to those who come to our home. You better keep one eye on him or he will sneak attack you.

For the OP's question, there is nothing you can do. Cats are very independent and stubborn. "Trying to get them to like you" always seems to have the opposite effect. Best to accept it will not like anyone but you and move on.