A man with a problem.....

[Deleted]

Hello everybody how are you? i ma here to discuss with you a problem that i have and i dont know what to do .i am young sensitive guy ( 25 years old ) that i have met a girl and i am really in love with her and i have flirt her and i have tell her my feeling that i have for her but she told m from our first date that she see me only as her best friend and noting more and we will never be together .
But some action she has done and how she react when she is with me make me kinda believe the opposite and i don't know what exactly what to DO.
Some thing that she done and thing she still doing and make me believe the opposite are those 1) when i asked her best girl friend number she got mad and she deleted from my phone and told me to no do it again 2) we have sleep together some times and cuddle a lot and i have massage her alot and she like a lot to massage her ass :/ and once she let me massage her boobs 3) she change clothes in front of me or walk in the house with her underwear only 4) she has cook for me and she likes to cook for me and ea t together 5) she likes my opinion and respect my opinion fro many things from what she would wear or buy to what she have to do with some problems she has .
I don't know what to do and i have tell all that to my friends and they told me that i am friendzoned and i have to doubt her or that she is like me only for buying her stuff and nothing more but i don't believe that :/ and i cant doubt her because i am in love with her i feel if i loose her my life will not have any meaning :/


p.s sorry for my bad english

p.s thanks for your time and i am waiting your replies as soon as possible

[Aleksej89]

If you want people to read your post, first make it readable...

Separate your sentences so they actually look normal, you can use almost any post here (or anywhere else) as an example.

People just won't submit themselves to brain damage going through that wall of a text.

Infracted: Please refrain from correcting other people's grammar/English. Especially don't post to only do that and not contribute to the actual issue at hand.

[Puck]

Simple, ask her if she is willing to take your relationship to the next level or if she is serious about you. If she says no, then it's no, if yes, then yay for you. As hard as it is, you're going to have to bear your heart to her and ask her upfront, beating around the bush will only fail.

People just won't submit themselves to brain damage going through that wall of a text.

I did, because I care so deeply.

[Deleted]

If she only considers you a friend you're a friend. Time to move on IMO. Though I do find it weird, not suspect, that she'd let you massage her more private parts.

[Zantos]

Well, prove them wrong. Don't buy her as many things as often. Everything you listed could be because she is comfortable around you. It isn't viewed as normal to walk around a house in underwear when around someone who's just a friend. You might be just friends. Its really hard for a guy who's viewed as a really good friend to move on from much more then that.

[Lilbruz]

First of all, please make your posts more readable

Second of all, she is being a bitch and using you. She tells you she doesnt see you as more as her best friend, yet she lets you sleep with her and be intimate with her ? I know lots of women have a hard time telling guys the truth because they are trying not to hurt them, but this one sounds like a real bitch to me.

Advice ? Quit her cold turkey. When she finds someone else to fill her one night stand, cudling and massage needs, she is gonna "dump" you anyway.

At the very least, going by what you said, she is a horribly manipulative friend if you ask me

Thing is that you could just enjoy what it is...some sex and cuddles, but your problem is that you are in love with her, and she is not in love with you, so you will never be together like a couple, and it sounds like thats what you really want...But im sad to say this, but its not gonna happen

[Chort]

You will read a lot of sensitive answers from mmo-champion crowd - mine is opposite:

DONT MAKE HER FEEL LIKE A PRINCESS

If you truly want her to be yours - act like a man - and by man i mean our primal function - conqueror and reproducer - do not be whinny liberal for-equality manwanabe.

Make her think that you are independent and other women wants you. Go out have fun - make sexy photos with other girls and all of this without her - and then just upload these pictures on facebook - or share somehow with her. BUT STOP PAYING ATTENTION TO HER. But Now she knows that you are her and she can do what ever she wants with you.

I honestly think there are only 3 outcomes for you here:

1) what i wrote above and she will get jealous/possessive and will want to be with you.

2) talk to her straight forwardly - let her know what you want.

3) just keep do what you are doing - and may be miracle will happen.

However i think option #1 is the most promising.

[Silhouette of Seraphim]

i ma here

Here's your problem. You're Mario chasing after Princess Peach, but she has a thing for Bowser.

Tough break.

[raechuul]

From everything you said she does, it seems like she honestly doesn't like you in that way. Except for the fact that she lets you massage her in intimate places while you're sharing a bed? That one throws me off...

[Silhouette of Seraphim]

But some action she has done and how she react when she is with me make me kinda believe the opposite and i don't know what exactly what to DO.
Some thing that she done and thing she still doing and make me believe the opposite are those 1) when i asked her best girl friend number she got mad and she deleted from my phone and told me to no do it again 2) we have sleep together some times and cuddle a lot and i have massage her alot and she like a lot to massage her ass :/ and once she let me massage her boobs 3) she change clothes in front of me or walk in the house with her underwear only 4) she has cook for me and she likes to cook for me and ea t together 5) she likes my opinion and respect my opinion fro many things from what she would wear or buy to what she have to do with some problems she has .
I don't know what to do and i have tell all that to my friends and they told me that i am friendzoned and i have to doubt her or that she is like me only for buying her stuff and nothing more but i don't believe that :/ and i cant doubt her because i am in love with her i feel if i loose her my life will not have any meaning :/

Here's your real trouble. She's not doing those things because she likes you and wants to be with you. She's doing those things because she's an attention whore and it keeps you on the hook so she can keep using you. You're not getting your dick in that, and when you're helping her pick out things to wear, it's because she's soon off to meet someone who is getting his dick in that.

Again, it's a rough break.

[ddk]

Whatever she is 'doing' to make you think that she's interested is irrelevant and probably wish-ful thinking. She's said no. Move on.

[Blueobelisk]

This totally feels like a troll thread lol. We generally don't like "girl help" threads in MMO-C anymore, and to boot you only have one post count. You shouldn't make an account on a gaming website just to ask about woman problems.

Sorry but I'm not buying it.

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[Silhouette of Seraphim]

This totally feels like a troll thread lol. We generally don't like "girl help" threads in MMO-C anymore, and to boot you only have one post count. You shouldn't make an account on a gaming website just to ask about woman problems.

Sorry but I'm not buying it.

I buy it. He probably has another account here, just was to embarrassed to post on it.

He sounds young, that can be a confusing time, it's not unlikely that he'd seek out advice.

[Deleted]

Simple, ask her if she is willing to take your relationship to the next level or if she is serious about you. If she says no, then it's no, if yes, then yay for you. As hard as it is, you're going to have to bear your heart to her and ask her upfront, beating around the bush will only fail.

Fully agreed with this.


OP, what you described is more then friendzone, so the situation from first time she told you she only wants you as friend could have changed. There's lots of people who actually grow to like someone after they've been friends with them first.

In the end, the worst thing that can happen is that she'll say she wants to just remain friends. However, don't force her to give a reply on same day, let her think about it.

And about the buying things, agreed, don't buy her as many things and see if she's still close to you.

[Kavoo]

we have sleep together some times and cuddle a lot and i have massage her alot and she like a lot to massage her ass :/ and once she let me massage her boobs 3) she change clothes in front of me or walk in the house with her underwear only 4) she has cook for me and she likes to cook for me and ea t together 5) she likes my opinion and respect my opinion fro many things from what she would wear or buy to what she have to do with some problems she has .

From this I can tell she dont see you as a man, youre just another girl friend. Sorry to be harsh, but you need to stop buying her stuff for starters.

I know you must respect her a lot since you like her, but you need to act more manlike. Maybe she wanted you to do stuff like groping her when you guys slept together and when she let you massage her ass/boobs.

And if she only see you as a friend, then shes acting all wrong around a MALE friend.

[Forfax]

She want to be with you or she using you for her own purpose

there are multiple options available in your problem and you're the only one that can do anything about it , you shouldn't come here to find answer trust me.
take a night off and deeply think about this , what i personnaly would do is , pretty simple.

give her a ultimatum.

Do you want to be with me yes or not?
tell her that if she doesn't want to be with you to simply go aways and never come back and that you will not talk with her anymore.

give her a day to think about it.

this is what i would do , from what i've read , she clearly using you.

[Laqweeta]

If you want people to read your post, first make it readable...

Separate your sentences so they actually look normal, you can use almost any post here (or anywhere else) as an example.

People just won't submit themselves to brain damage going through that wall of a text.

Infracted: Please refrain from correcting other people's grammar/English. Especially don't post to only do that and not contribute to the actual issue at hand.

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[Nekrosislol]

If shes just a friend and lets you touch certain parts of her that friends usually dont touch, makes you wonder what all her other guy friends get to do with her.


Cut your losses now.

[vizzle]

I find it hard to believe that a girl is letting you massage her boobs and her ass and everything else without being anything more than a friend. Idunno, this one seems strange to me.

[Ausr]

Welcome to the friend zone. Pull up a seat and join the lot of us.