(Ex) Girlfriend Advice.

[Deleted]

Different people have different definitions, but "getting to know each other with no strings attached" is how I would describe dating. Boyfriend/girlfriend implies exclusivity on an emotional and (usually) physical level. I think it's healthy to go on lots of dates with multiple people in order to find who you're most compatible with. Once people have been doing that for two months though, to me that would be an indicator of relationship status. Other people might see it differently, but what really matters is how the OP and his girlfriend defined their relationship. (I'm not arguing, just fleshing out the different terms)

I guess i pretty much agree with what you said. It seems the op cared about her but i can't really call 2 months a long/solid relationship.
But people may have diffrent opinions on that. Not that a relationship cannot become serious quickly but it ending after 2months or so isn't really something shocking in my eyes atleast.

[Auloria]

Isn't this par for the course for online dating? She gave you an honest try and she wasn't feeling it as a long term thing, simple as that.

[Kardezar]

Move on with your life. If things between you are going to change that's on her, so don't count on it. Put yourself in the position of power and try to move on, don't chase her.

[Deleted]

I recomend that you go out to grab a beer, and forget about her not much you can do -sorry.

[-Zait-]

You sound like a nice enough guy, and she seemed like she was direct and upfront about it which is all you can ask. If you really want her and think she's worth the energy, try and get her back within reason - don't go all stalker clingy on her. If she's not interested still then just back off and move on, you'll be fine.

[Moadar]

Online dating sites should be thought of as free "escort" services. Most of the woman on those sites are damaged goods with attention issues/daddy issues. Use them for the only thing they are good for then move on to the next.

[galluk]

Not sure what your really looking for here. Best thing I can say is not to take it personally. Everyone is just trying to end up happy, and if she finds someone that makes her happier, then more power to her. It has, or probably will happen to you at one point, where your not as into a girl as she is, and you gotta let her go. It's just when it happens you, people freak and think something is wrong with them

[Kerath]

It could well be exactly as she said, and that you've done nothing wrong - just that she felt she didn't click with you, and she has clicked with the other guy.
If you really want to know, send her a short message and ask her - make it clear that you're just seeking to avoid repeating a mistake with another girl at some point down the line, and not going crazy ex-boyfriend stalker mode

[Sorshen]

You got a lot more than most people get, I mean some sort of explanation. You should cut your losses and move on.

[Terridon]

Sounds like you've both been acting mature.
Her breaking up, and you not going into a rage.
I find it a bit silly to take decisions based on a peson you've never met, but oh well.
You should forget about her and move on. Trying to understand it, or find the meaning of why she did as she did, will just keep you stalling for a while, which you will find is nothing but wasted time, later on. It sucks, but you won't get a satisfying answer in the end. And even if she could point something out, would you really want to change yourself that much, for the offchance of her coming back?
Hope you find something better soon ^^

[Purlina]

Does the reason really matter?

If shes not in to you, then it's over...

[Mihalik]

Trying to understand women is a lost cause.

Good old Ben Franklin was wrong about one thing. In the world there are 3 not 2 things that a man can be sure about.

Death, Taxes and that you will never understand woman.

And indeed. If she breaks up with you, let it go. I made the mistake of "patching things up" once. When soon after shit hit the fan it did go much worse then the first time. She already chose and there is little you can do about it beyond making it worse.

And sometimes there is simply no reason for things like this. I think men tend to be more predictable. With women in every relationship there are a complicated set of secondary points that influence the outcome of the relationship. Stuff like, your schedule, your hobbies, her expectations etc etc etc etc. Anyone of them can be a dealbreaker.