Sex is overrated IMO

[Martinussen]

To make this as short as possible, i were on a vacation last week where i met a girl and we ended up sleeping together (sex, not just sleep)

Now keep in mind that this was my first time and though i liked it, society and the media makes sex look like the ultimate greatness to achieve in this world, and that just wasn't what i experienced. I definitely will keep having sex when the chances pop up, but i dont see what the big fuss is about.

I guess this just wasn't one of those amazing moments ?

[Deleted]

May I just ask what did you expect and what is the fuss you've been hearing ?

If you thought it'd be similar to a porno or a titanic love scene, then yes you probably had a poor idea what it might be like.

To be honest I think the 1st time is probably the hardest to appreciate. You get to try more and explore in time, then you really get to enjoy it.

[Kraenen]

Are you trying to play it down because of society's views?

[Toffie]

lol. Try having sex with someone you love.

[Deleted]

First time rarely is that great. It gets better, a lot in fact.

[Simulacrum]

Are you trying to play it down because of society's views?

That heretic! Burn him!

[tangers58]

Then you aren't doing it right.

[willtron]

sex gets better with experience. first time is always.... interesting and quite funny when you look back

[ohshift]

Spoke like someone who only masturbates.

[Wafffles]

I suspect you're intentionally being sensationalistic; 'society and media' mention how bad the first time can be almost as much as they mention sex itself. Imagine if you gave up learning to ride a bicycle because you fell off the very first time you hopped on. Now imagine that bicycle was a beautiful woman, and imagine pedaling a bike felt really, really, really good.

Moral of the story: try again.

[Bobzor]

Yes, now you too know the secret. gz.

[Grimfrost]

Well you've known her for less than a week or max a week so it isn't that special, Sex with someone you love however is one of the best experiences ever imo.

[Martinussen]

Then you aren't doing it right.

Perhaps. I guess there is only one thing to do, and that is have more and then judge. I just still cant quite see why is it so much better to spend time and energy for an orgasm with someone you dont know very well, when you could just reach that whenever you wanted alone. If you've found someone you love im sure it is better as its a thing for you both.

I guess its just the one-night-stand thing i dont quite see the point in...

[Spectral]

Most people that are new to sex are bad at it. You'll get better and the partners you're with get better. It's weird, sex was the most important thing in the world to me when I was 16, but it wasn't all that great. Now I'm 27, and it's not nearly as high of a priority, but it's a lot better.

[Buxton McGraff]

If sex wasn't awesome, then you're probably just horrible at it.

[Kanadei]

Perhaps. I guess there is only one thing to do, and that is have more and then judge. I just still cant quite see why is it so much better to spend time and energy for an orgasm with someone you dont know very well, when you could just reach that whenever you wanted alone. If you've found someone you love im sure it is better as its a thing for you both.

I guess its just the one-night-stand thing i dont quite see the point in...

Much like you shouldn't judge WoW by the first quest you do, or the first spell you use, or the first level you complete - similarly judging anything by one is experience is fairly flawed.

Come back in a few years with a bit more experience and you might be able to claim its overrated.

[Kalis]

I just still cant quite see why is it so much better to spend time and energy for an orgasm with someone you dont know very well, when you could just reach that whenever you wanted alone.

Nope, you're just doing it wrong if she can't do things for you that you can't do for yourself...or you're very flexible.

[Binaris]

Give it time, the more you do it, the more adept you become, and the more willing they are to do the weird stuff.

[Collegeguy]

Sex is only great when you have a decent girl that knows how to work the hips. Come back then.

[Deadvolcanoes]

The first time I tried coffee or beer, I didn't like them. Now they're my two favorite beverages.

Keep trying. It will get better. If it doesn't, oh well. No ones going to force you to enjoy sex.