Hey, I'm in a chatty mood tonight and don't know why. (Overtiredness most likely).
To make a long story short, I've been playing since the start of BC, and been hardcore raiding from BT until FL in Cata (..Until I had a baby, that is).
I still played casually until late November, a bit after MoP released, due to my husband coming back from deployment (he's in the Navy) and being busy etc.
I'm a stay-at-home-mom, working occasionally when I get voice narrating projects and modelling jobs.. But now that things have kinda slowed down, and my son is starting to get more independant and can play by himself fine (with supervision)... I re-subbed. my old casual guild welcomed me with open arms, and here I am raiding again. 3 mornings a week (we live in Japan, big time zone difference).
I thought I had worked on an agreement with my husband, that he'd allow me to play as long as I'm attending to our son, and when he's asleep etc, but everytime he comes home for lunch (raid goes on pretty much until he almost has to leave back to work) he just RAGES nonstop. He'll bitch that I'm addicted, play too much, not taking care of our son (even though I do my best to keep him entertained, and change/feed him during trash (my guild is understanding), sometimes I even sing to him during fights lol.. And I did cause a few wipes here and there to tend to him) Occasionally he'll cry a little until we wipe or until the boss is dead.. And that's what frustrates my husband most.
I honestly think it's not THAT big of a deal, the rest of the time, when not raiding, I work my ass off to take care of our son, clean, and get errands done.
My husband does help here and there, which I appreciate immensely.. it's just frustrating for me as well since he doesn't want to watch our son at all when I play (he says it would "endorse" me playing) and trying to be so controlling about it.
Also, compared to how much I played years ago.. I've been doing a pretty damn good job in controlling how much I play.
Of course.. Whenever HE plays games (Borderlands 2 mostly).. I always watch our son, hoping for the same respect/favor.. But he keeps using the excuse "Well.. the games I play have a PAUSE button"
It just really sucks that he doesn't support what I like and enjoy doing.
Sorry this came out as a rant mostly.. But my question to you:
Any other SAHM's or wives/girlfriends out there who play?
What agreements have you made with your significant other, and managing Gaming/Life balance?
I'm running out of ideas how to convince him and make him OK with it.. Or perhaps I'M the one who's in the wrong? I'm really looking for any kind of feedback!
TL;DR: I raid. my husband hates it, but I don't want to quit :/