How to get over a relationship after being cheated on?

[Brydie]

Hey guys, a few days ago I kicked my boyfriend of a year and a half out after finding out he was planning a weekend away with a girl he met on WoW (she lives in NZ, while we live in Sydney). I found a conversation after being suspicious for awhile, he said to his mate that he liked another girl and wanted to get to know her better before making a decision (even said he didn't want to cheat on me but couldn't see himself saying no). I got extremely angry, packed up all his stuff and threw him out.

Now I'm glad the relationship is over, but the thoughts of him finding someone else while still with me really hurts. He's occupying my mind 24/7 and I just wish I could get him out of my head. As I'm from NZ as well and I didn't have any good friends in Sydney, I've flown back for a few days to be with a good friend of mine. So I can't stop thinking about it, and I don't really have a lot to do here... I don't know Wtf to do anymore.

[Deleted]

Good riddance, he's not worth a single dime of your thoughts, what happened is that you invested in an egotistical & insensitive prick, mistakes like these are made all the time, thought trial and error you will eventually find 'the one'.

Now, I wish there was a manual for these things sometimes, unfortunately - there is no easy way out, it takes time, and with a little effort you can effectively reduce that time. For now, give yourself a break, there's nothing wrong with how you feel - knowing that is important, and try to keep doing whatever it is that you loved doing before. Another idea would be to sit down and think of new things you always wanted to try but never really got to.

[Brydie]

I'm thinking about taking up pole dancing classes. Went once on a hens night a couple of years ago but the ex didn't want me to.

[Babzu]

I'm thinking about taking up pole dancing classes. Went once on a hens night a couple of years ago but the ex didn't want me to.

...maybe that guy really is better off with the other girl.

[Kerath]

Revel in doing all the things you want/like to do, that he found objectionable.

[Brydie]

Excuse me Babzu?

[Micfeind]

...maybe that guy really is better off with the other girl.

a mate of mine went and and practiced that, its actually a decent work out and not exactly what you think

[TheNationGamer]

Wish any of my exs took up pole dancing as long as they don't become a stripper =p

You are better off without him. I'm sure another guy can and will make you happy eventually, Until then focus on you and do what you want to do

I've been cheated on once It's not the best feeling in the World but all you can do is talk to friends/guildies or even family
All because of her I can't take a women serious anymore because of my doubts and expectations of possibly being cheated on

[Deleted]

It will be hard for a few days / weeks / months, everyone is different.
Just never blame yourself, some people want to have their cake and eat it.
But in the real world you can not have both, it was a horrible way to end, but you know the truth! Alot of guys / girls do not get that 'lucky', so with that information, realise that it is time to move on!

[Deleted]

I'm thinking about taking up pole dancing classes. Went once on a hens night a couple of years ago but the ex didn't want me to.

I did that once, the pole couldnt take my weight and I crushed the instructor.

[Ayla]

The biggest thing you have to remember is that it ISNT you. My Ex fiance cheated on me with another girl. I dumped him, he married her. He cheated on her, and married a new girl. Gotta wonder when he's going to cheat on the new wife. Do pole dancing if you want, sounds like fun. Although, I will warn you now, dont expect to be good at it. Something like 1% of girls can do a chin up. I dont want you to feel more discouraged than anything.

[Espe]

Don't mind him, troglodytes like Babzu think slut-shaming on an online gaming forum make him look cool.

I'm sure he makes his parents proud.

I'm with Kerath on this one. Have fun, figure out how to live with yourself for a while. I mean really use this time to get to know yourself - in the end no matter what you decide it will help. Don't go jumping into another relationship right away just because "that's what you're supposed to be doing" or whatever. You will never find someone to forge a healthy long-term relationship with that way.

[Brydie]

Well no chance I'll ever become a stripper lol. That's what also worries me, not being able to trust again.

[Ayla]

I did that once, the pole couldnt take my weight and I crushed the instructor.

Uh, those probably werent real poles then

[Rukentuts]

Well no chance I'll ever become a stripper lol. That's what also worries me, not being able to trust again.

Trust me, you'll be very paranoid for a bit.

[Xelkova]

My suggestion would be to start by getting rid of whatever reminds you of him. You don't want to constantly be thinking about someone who hurt you. Let out whatever is hurting you when you need to. The very last thing you want is to constantly be holding in whatever anger or sadness. It just isn't healthy. One way you could do this is by writing down whatever you're upset about on a piece of paper and then either tearing it up or burning it. This will sort of help you push those feelings out of your mind in a non-harmful way. The last and most important thing I would suggest(and this applies to any situation where you would be angry, upset, frustrated, etc) is to do something creative. Creative can be anything-from playing music, painting, to even playing video games. You want something that can keep your mind off him, and something that involves problem-solving of any kind will definitely keep you busy. Other than those things, just remember that time heals all wounds. Good luck.

[Deleted]

Uh, those probably werent real poles then

It was a joke, but I also weigh 18 stone, few poles will take that weight on it.

[Gheld]

Hey guys, a few days ago I kicked my boyfriend of a year and a half out after finding out he was planning a weekend away with a girl he met on WoW (she lives in NZ, while we live in Sydney). I found a conversation after being suspicious for awhile, he said to his mate that he liked another girl and wanted to get to know her better before making a decision (even said he didn't want to cheat on me but couldn't see himself saying no). I got extremely angry, packed up all his stuff and threw him out.

Now I'm glad the relationship is over, but the thoughts of him finding someone else while still with me really hurts. He's occupying my mind 24/7 and I just wish I could get him out of my head. As I'm from NZ as well and I didn't have any good friends in Sydney, I've flown back for a few days to be with a good friend of mine. So I can't stop thinking about it, and I don't really have a lot to do here... I don't know Wtf to do anymore.

Try the following recipe to recovery, it's an age old family recipe.

Step #1: Pity party. Set aside an entire day to barricade yourself in your room and cry it off.
Step #2: Solace: Gather your closest friends and/or loved ones and go somewhere flashy and different, perhaps see a show at the local something or other.
Step #3: Getting very drunk. Get very drunk (preferably in the company of your chosen solace group).
Step #4: Resolution: With a death it's easier because the funeral/wake/whatever always serves as the resolution point, with a break up you kind of have to invent your own resolution ritual, and then perform said ritual.
Step #5: Distraction. The world doesn't stop when tragedy strikes, so distract yourself by throwing yourself back into your normal routine. You'll think less and less of the loss, and eventually not at all.

[Deleted]

Well, its very easy to fix if you really want to.
i could take care pf it in 1 hour quite easily, but it would require that you realy want to gey him our of your mind.

I recomend hypnosis

[Uennie]

First off.

Good for you. Way too many people don't have the self-respect to throw someone out the door when they deserve it. He was an ass, and that other girl better beware.

Secondly.

YES, girl get a hobby. My last breakup I kept myself constantly busy.