My girlfriend broke up with me yesterday, after almost 3 years, we couldn't continue doing this.
We argued a lot lately and we've been wanting to fix it, but by wanting to fix it we pressured ourselves way too much, she lost interest in me but still tried.
She told me what was wrong multiple times, but I realised it too long and couldn't prevent the break up.
She broke up with me, and I'm getting mixed reactions from people.
Some people tell me it'll be alright and to give her time and the first step after that is to become friends again and then work my way back if I still feel the love.
Some people tell me not to dwell on her, forget about her, break contact with her.
I am at a loss, I have no clue what to do, I want to give her the time and become friends, but I know that if I start hoping for that I'll drive myself crazy.
If I don't hope for it, I might become even more depressed than I am know, it's whats been keeping me up all the time.
I told her my story and what I wanted to do to fix things yesterday, and she said:
I've listened to what you said, I've emptied my mind so I could think clear, but I'm sorry, I can't do this anymore.
We've pressurized ourselves so much we grew apart, not even friends.
I've never done much for her to show her that I love her, now it's too late.
I wanted to do something big for our 3rd anniversary, but it's too late.
Yesterday evening I lost my best friend, my love and my support.
For the people who are going to tell me to get over it and fuck bitches, no, I'm not alpha, I have no interest in being alpha.