What would you do if your partner(long term) became overweight?

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You're in a long term relationship, your partner is very attractive and has always been fit. At some point he/she becomes quite overweight, would you leave him/her because his or her shape changed massivly, or would you stick by your partner?
Nothing in your relationship has changed only the physical aspect.

As for how overweight I'm talking about, just go to the point where you feel It's no longer ok, I guess you probably know where that starts.

[Deleted]

It takes quite a lot to become something that would concern me when it comes to weight. The moment it starts to impede your ability to move, I would step in. Try to supportively get her started exercising, preferably with me on her side but the exercise I can do is very limited.
It would take a long time, a lot of stubborness and ignorance of their own health for me to leave them over their weight, if ever.

[Arkenaw]

Leaving someone because they gained weight is probably one of the shallowest things I've ever heard of. I wouldn't be happy if my partner made it into my "not ok" zone, but I would help them out.

I had a pretty long response planned out for this, but my forever alone status makes it rather confusing when I think about it.

[Ron Burgundy]

i would probably cheat on them with someone who is fit.

[Deleted]

i would probably cheat on them with someone who is fit.

Isn't it better to just break up in that case?

[Deleted]

I would say hit the stairmaster or hit the road. Call me shallow or whatever, but massive overweight is my biggest turn-off and I couldn´t remain in a relationship where the physical aspect would be gone.

[Taurenburger]

I would confront her about it, as I prefer my partner to be fit. I´d then help her with getting fit again.

[Deleted]

I wouldn't be fine with it at all. I'd push him to start training to get rid of it. Not that he doesn't train now, can't see him becoming overweight due to how he lives.

[Ron Burgundy]

Isn't it better to just break up in that case?

is it?


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You should really intervene before it gets to that point, for their own sake mostly.

[Spectral]

While it's at least someone context dependent (does she have a medical condition?), if it were a product of just not bothering to stay in shape, I'd dump her very quickly. I don't think this is something I have much to worry about - running and biking together are some of our favorite things to do.

People saying that it's "shallow" to dump someone over weight gain are ignoring that weight gain isn't just a matter of appearance - it's a marker for sedentary lifestyle, lack of concern for you appearance, and diminished health.

[Rukentuts]

if it were a product of just not bothering to stay in shape, I'd dump her very quickly.

There'd be warning signs when she doesn't wanna do stuff outside anymore.

[Spectral]

Right, right. That's why I think I can say pretty safely that we'd already have split over whatever it was that caused her to stop being the person that I know. I have no desire to be with someone that sits in the house, being a bump on a log.

[Rukentuts]

Right, right. That's why I think I can say pretty safely that we'd already have split over whatever it was that caused her to stop being the person that I know. I have no desire to be with someone that sits in the house, being a bump on a log.

Yeah, I'd concur with this as well. People want to make this strictly about appearance, but really it's not. I love going outside and biking, hiking, etc. and if my partner once had similar interests and abandoned them, chances are we would split as well.

[marthsk]

That thread has obviously been made to stir controversy with no real intent of measuring opinions, considering he just joined... but I'll bite.

She either gets in shape, or I bail.
Women have no qualms doing this, I don't see why I should conform to some moral standards that some MMOC users have about it.

Yeah, I'm shallow. Do something about it, MMOC!

[Nola Saint 504]

Isn't it better to just break up in that case?

No, because cheating would then motivate them to get skinny again.

[Rukentuts]

No, because cheating would then motivate them to get skinny again.

Cheating is just what a coward does when he (or she) doesn't have the balls to tell them its over.

[marthsk]

No, because cheating would then motivate them to get skinny again.

In what fantasy world does that outlandish outcome actually occur?
Certainly not in the real world.

Wait... "Join Date: May 2013"...

Oh okay, that explains everything.

[solvexx]

My partner and I gained a few kilos over the past year for some reason.
I think we attributed it to eating out a bit more.

We just sorted that shit out, we both joined a gym each and working on it.
We're even going one step further and getting even fitter.

[Brosemon]

I haven't been in that situation, so I can't say for sure. However, I feel like I would just eventually point it out and get them to try and get fit. I don't think it'd be a huge turn off really, physically, idc, but health wise. Like a previous poster said, if it starts to hinder your movement, it's kind of a bad thing and you need to try to "get better". But on a physical level, I really don't see myself caring much.