Hello MMO-Champ community, I was wondering what do you think about an issue that keeps coming up to me. Basically, is it wrong for a girl who is in a relationship to go out 1 on 1 with her male friends? The answer may or may not be obvious to you, but the people around me are frowing upon me for this and saying that my behaviour is ambiguous, that I don't know "how society works" and if "something happens" (i.e rape) it's partially my fault. I was wondering, is it really like that? Am I missing something obvious here?
Personally I think that victims of rape can't ever be blamed for it and I, having experienced sexual assault a year ago from one of my friends (not rape), know how you feel when someone says "Well, he deserves to be beaten but you deserve a slap for going out with him in the first place while already having a boyfriend". It was not a romantic date, we've met through WoW and have been online friends for 1 or 2 years prior to him moving to my city to attend a specific university, plus he used to get along with my boyfriend very well.
In spite of this I still continue to go out with my male friends 1 on 1. I know that cross-sex friendships are often based on sexual attraction and I know that given the chance a lot of my friends would have sex with me. I'd need to be completely naive to ignore this fact. But as things stands right now we are just friends and those are not romantic dates.
My boyfriend accepts it while not completely approving of it, but my relatives and one or two friends are questioning my actions and letting me know they think I'm a whore without saying so outright, and it's getting on my nerves. So I was wondering, what do you think?